Messy Home? Here's How To Get it Clean & Organized for Good!

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00:00:00Hey and welcome back in today's video. We're going to talk about where to start when your home feels

00:00:05really messy and out of control and it's probably the last place that you would expect. When my house

00:00:11was the messiest it had ever been I felt like I cleaned more than ever. I spent the first 30 years

00:00:17of my life drowning in clutter. It wasn't full hoarders with cats but it was bad and no matter

00:00:24how hard I tried it always got messy again. It felt like the next day overnight right and I was on this

00:00:29vicious cycle because I was starting in the wrong spots. I thought you had to start cleaning your

00:00:35house in the really visual areas so anywhere that company would see. So I was focusing on the living

00:00:41room and the kitchen and the problem with that was those spaces get messy really fast but also

00:00:47they're filled with other people's things too. So I felt like I was always picking up after my family,

00:00:53picking up after my husband. I felt resentful that no one was helping me and again overnight it seemed

00:01:01to be messy again so I was like angry and I saw housework as this really negative thing and I

00:01:06stopped cleaning as much as I should have because every time I did it felt like I was being

00:01:12disrespected by my family. So how did I change? How did my home change? I changed where I focused. I

00:01:19changed where I started and I started cleaning my bedroom first which is bananas because nobody

00:01:25sees the bedroom right? Company doesn't see the bedroom. The bedroom used to be where I hid

00:01:30everything so company didn't see but it's mine. It's the first thing I see when I wake up and the

00:01:37last thing I see when I go to bed and when I made my bedroom a priority even if the rest of the house

00:01:43was a disaster something changed up here. I started having more self-respect. I started realizing that

00:01:50I wanted a clean house for me and that it's not about picking up after other people it's about I

00:01:56deserve this and focusing on my bedroom and nothing else just making sure that everything was picked up

00:02:02and it was tidy and it felt like a retreat changed my mindset and made the rest of my home cleaner too.

00:02:10So now let's walk through the steps of creating your dream bedroom and I use the dream acronym

00:02:15because I love acronyms. So the first step is dirty clothes. It's just getting all the dirty clothes out

00:02:22of your bedroom picking them up off the floor take the laundry hamper out start a load of laundry even

00:02:27if you don't have time for laundry just getting the dirty clothes off the floor instantly makes your

00:02:32space feel so much better and the next step is R for reset and what I mean by this is resetting your

00:02:40bedroom back to like factory gorgeous putting all the clean clothes away taking anything out of your

00:02:47bedroom that doesn't belong and putting it where it does belong clearing off the top of your dresser

00:02:53of things that don't belong just resetting your bedroom making it feel perfect. This isn't about

00:03:00any deep cleaning this is about making your bedroom a priority by resetting it right now. I'd like to

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00:04:06I'm going to put the link in the description below. The next step is E for emptying trash not only the

00:04:13trash can that you have in your bedroom if you don't have a trash can in your bedroom you need to get a

00:04:17trash can in your bedroom but trash inside your dresser inside your bedside table drawers you

00:04:23probably have old receipts or something in here and trash in your bedroom is like it's like a symbol

00:04:30right it's a small thing even if you don't see it having trash in your bedroom is like I'm not really

00:04:36into like energy woo-woo thing but I'm telling you clearing out the trash does something it makes you

00:04:44feel better about your space. So grab a trash bag grab a bag for recycling and get rid of anything

00:04:51that doesn't belong. The next step is A for air it out and obviously I mean opening up the curtains

00:04:58and opening up the windows but also stripping your bed washing the sheets and giving everything a good

00:05:05dust and clean freshening up your bedroom I don't know why but sometimes bedrooms get like a funk

00:05:13is a funk the right word like a skunk like a skank it feels you're sleeping in here all night you know

00:05:19what I mean it can smell a little bit and they can get dingy and dirty it should feel like a hotel so

00:05:26open up those curtains dust your lamps clean your bedside tables vacuum under your bed air out your

00:05:33bedroom freshen up your bedroom and again make this a priority it doesn't matter what the rest of the

00:05:39house looks like you only have to clean your bedroom right now and the last step is M for make your bed

00:05:47make your bed pull up the blankets if you're not a pillow person you don't like decorative pillows

00:05:52that's okay but how can you make your bed feel luxurious treat yourself maybe to some new sheets

00:05:58new bedding even a new mattress your bed is where you spend almost half of your life half of your

00:06:05life at least eight hours a night and if you're like me spend time watching movies in your bed

00:06:10it doesn't matter the point is it should be a priority your bed should be a priority it should be

00:06:17a treat to crawl into it and nothing feels better than crawling into a beautifully made bed at the

00:06:24end of a long day with crisp clean sheets I know starting in your bedroom might feel counter

00:06:30intuitive you are probably embarrassed about the state of your home and no one's going to see your

00:06:35bedroom but you but that's the whole point we have to stop thinking of cleaning our house as something

00:06:41we do for other people something we do for our husband or our kids or our friends or neighbors or

00:06:46company that might stop by this is for you and your bedroom is such an important space for you

00:06:56it's your retreat and I want you to really think about making it a priority for 30 days I want you

00:07:02to give this a try for just 30 days stop stressing about the state of the rest of the home and just

00:07:07focus on every single day resetting your bedroom making your bed making sure it's dust free getting

00:07:14out the dirty clothes putting the clean clothes away for 30 days because this amazing thing is

00:07:20going to happen it's going to change up here it's going to change how you feel about yourself and

00:07:26your home and cleaning and it's going to feel less like you're picking up after people and more like

00:07:32you're doing something for you because you deserve it you deserve a restful beautiful bedroom and

00:07:38what's going to happen is that mindset shift is going to trickle into the rest of the house

00:07:43and you're going to start feeling like you know what I deserve a clean kitchen and you're going

00:07:48to start doing it without thinking without it feeling like you're climbing a mountain right

00:07:52because that's what happens when we're feeling resentful about house cleaning when we're feeling

00:07:58negative about the fact that we have to pick up and clean and vacuum and dust and do dishes and

00:08:03laundry we get in this headspace of it's this horrible thing and we've built it up to be such

00:08:08a monumental task that we feel exhausted before we've even started and so where do you start

00:08:15where do you start when your house feels like a disaster you start changing up here and you stop

00:08:21making it a big mountain to climb and instead just realizing that it's a gift to you thank you guys

00:08:28so much for watching I hope you're feeling inspired to make your bedroom a priority today and I'll see

00:08:34you guys next time thank you guys so much for those of you who have stayed to the end okay this is a

00:08:39weird one but I have to ask if I'm the only person I it's summer it's hot I'm also getting older so

00:08:46I'm having some hot flashes but I cannot just sleep with just a thin blanket or a sheet on top of me I

00:08:52need like a heavy blanket or duvet but then I'm really hot and sometimes I can stick a leg out

00:08:59but I can't put more than a leg do you know why Freddy Krueger my friends not just Freddy Krueger

00:09:04but ghosts monsters axe murderers that could break in I don't know why my brain tells me that a heavy

00:09:11blanket will protect me against blades and demons but my brain tells me that I need to have like a

00:09:18blanket on me to fall asleep please tell me I'm not alone I don't know if that's because I'm

00:09:23traumatized as a child I was six years old and I was watching Nightmare on Elm Street when I shouldn't

00:09:27have and I was like peeking around and the babysitter was watching it and then my parents

00:09:31caught me and then my stepdad thought it would be hilarious to say through the vent at night

00:09:35'cause Sandra it's Freddy don't fall asleep I'm blaming him for that and my inability to sleep

00:09:43without heavy blankets on me but maybe I'm not alone it is a weird thing to think that a sheet

00:09:51is not enough to protect us from like an axe wielding murderer but a blanket we're good we're

00:09:58all good for some reason a scary paranormal ghost you know that's gonna levitate you out of the bed

00:10:04that can happen if you only have a sheet on but if you have a blanket you're fine it's full

00:10:09protection this is what my brain tells me I have no idea why but anyways let me know in the comments

00:10:15below if you also need more blankets when you sleep because you're scared of unknown entities

00:10:22thanks so much I'll see you guys next time

Key Takeaway

Achieving a permanently clean home requires a 30-day focus on the bedroom first to shift from resentment-based cleaning to a mindset of self-respect and personal deservingness.

Highlights

Cleaning visible areas like the kitchen and living room first leads to resentment and a cycle of clutter because those spaces contain other people's belongings.
Prioritizing the bedroom creates a mindset shift from cleaning for others to maintaining self-respect and personal wellness.
The DREAM acronym provides a five-step system for bedroom maintenance: Dirty clothes, Reset, Empty trash, Air it out, and Make the bed.
Clearing hidden trash from bedside tables and dresser drawers acts as a psychological symbol for reclaiming control over the environment.
Maintaining a clean bedroom for 30 consecutive days establishes a self-care habit that naturally trickles into the rest of the house.
The bedroom serves as a personal retreat that requires high-quality bedding and specific comfort to improve sleep quality for the eight hours spent there daily.

Timeline

The failure of visual-area cleaning

Focusing on the kitchen and living room first creates a cycle of cleaning and immediate clutter.
Communal spaces often contain items belonging to family members, leading to feelings of disrespect and anger.
Visual areas are primarily cleaned for the benefit of company rather than personal comfort.

Thirty years of chronic clutter often stem from prioritizing areas where visitors might see the mess. This approach triggers resentment because the cleaner feels like they are merely picking up after others. When the house returns to a mess overnight, the cleaner views housework as a negative, monumental task.

The psychology of the bedroom retreat

The bedroom is the first and last thing seen every day, making it the most influential room for mental health.
Starting in a private space shifts the motivation from social performance to self-respect.
A clean bedroom creates a 'retreat' feeling that simplifies the cleaning of other rooms.

Because guests rarely see the bedroom, it often becomes a dumping ground for clutter hidden from the public eye. Making this room a priority transforms it into a sanctuary. This change in environment alters internal self-perception, moving the focus away from the family's actions and toward a personal right to a clean home.

Implementing the DREAM maintenance system

Dirty clothes must be removed from the floor and hampers to instantly improve spatial aesthetics.
The bedroom reset involves clearing surfaces and returning stray items to their proper locations.
Emptying trash from drawers and bedside tables removes symbolic weight from the personal environment.
Freshening the air and linens daily mimics the luxury and cleanliness of a hotel room.

The DREAM acronym—Dirty clothes, Reset, Empty trash, Air it out, and Make the bed—serves as a mechanical guide for daily maintenance. This includes opening windows to remove odors, dusting surfaces, and vacuuming under the bed. The bed itself is the focal point, deserving of high-quality sheets and pillows because a person spends nearly half their life there.

The 30-day mindset shift and results

Committing to bedroom maintenance for 30 days breaks the perception of cleaning as a mountain to climb.
Self-care in the bedroom eventually spills over into intrinsic motivation for cleaning the kitchen and living areas.
The feeling of safety and protection in bed is a physical and psychological necessity for restful sleep.

Consistency for one month removes the mental exhaustion associated with housekeeping. Instead of housework being a chore for others, it becomes a gift to oneself. This transition allows the individual to tackle difficult areas like the kitchen without feeling burdened by the efforts of others, as the habit of order is already established in their private retreat.

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