Is The Manosphere Really That Dangerous? - Louis Theroux

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CChris Williamson
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00:00:00Louis, you've got three sons, 20, 18, and 11.
00:00:05Why were you interested in doing this documentary?
00:00:09Well, for reasons closely related to that, I mean, yeah, that's obviously part of it.
00:00:17As a dad, I saw my kids were consuming, I mean, consuming maybe sounds more active than it
00:00:25was.
00:00:26I was exposed to influencer content, manosphere type content, specifically Andrew Tate back
00:00:31in the sort of post-COVID era when he first blew up.
00:00:36And I remember kids saying, you know, the boys saying, "Oh, Andrew Tate said this or that."
00:00:42And thinking like, "Well, who is Andrew Tate?"
00:00:44That's not, wasn't someone I'd ever heard of.
00:00:47And then the content obviously turned out to be things like, "Oh, women can't drive or shouldn't
00:00:52be allowed to drive or women shouldn't be allowed to vote."
00:00:56And it was hard to, you know, that they were sort of saying like, "Well, he just says it
00:00:58as a joke.
00:00:59Like, everyone's freaking out about this and, but you know, we know what it is.
00:01:04Like it's clearly clickbait or ragebait, but nevertheless, its level of virality was kind
00:01:11of, it would be too far to say at this stage it was concerning, but it was kind of weird.
00:01:16It was just weird to see someone blow up like that that quickly and to sort of commandeer
00:01:22swathes of the internet so purposefully.
00:01:26Like he kind of hacked, he figured something out about the algorithm, about Twitter and
00:01:33social media in general, TikTok really specifically, doing podcasts, saying outrageous things, having
00:01:39an army of clippers, repurpose those into short snippets and those being picked up by the algorithm
00:01:45so that everyone, literally millions worldwide were being exposed to his content.
00:01:50So fast forward a few years and he continued to become famous.
00:01:54Other people in his stead or in associated contexts were putting out similarly viral clickbait
00:02:02content and the whole culture felt like it was being inundated.
00:02:07I say the whole, like swathes of male skewing internet spaces were being inundated with it.
00:02:15And then meanwhile, you know, as a program maker of 30 years standing, I'm always looking
00:02:20for ideas and I was talking to Netflix about making a program and it seemed front and centre
00:02:28of what I should be covering.
00:02:30As both someone, I mean, I've been joking that it's like the final boss battle of the Louis
00:02:34Theroux subject, you know, like as someone who specialised over the years, I've done stuff
00:02:38about racists, cults, sex workers of different stripes, people involved in pro wrestling and
00:02:46gangster rap, this aspect of the manosphere, like this subset section of the manosphere
00:02:51feels like all those things mixed together, you know what I mean?
00:02:55They look a bit like wrestlers, they speak a little bit like rappers and the content
00:03:00is clearly highly dubious at best, you know, whether or not it's sincere is a different
00:03:06question.
00:03:07So I was like, well, this is made to measure for whatever my skill set is in terms of making
00:03:11documentaries.
00:03:12I think the wrestling analogy is apt because a lot of the stuff that we see online, even
00:03:18from, you know, Trump sometimes, is this weird kayfabe where I don't know, is this a joke
00:03:25or is this real?
00:03:26And if what nobody wants is to be accused of having pointed the finger at someone for telling
00:03:32a joke, saying that it was real, and there's always the, you know, the sort of the comedian
00:03:37get out of jail free card of, well, you know, like this is, I'm not being serious with that,
00:03:41but at some point the seriousness actually comes in to touch reality.
00:03:46Big time.
00:03:47You know, the wrestling metaphor is, as you say, is very apropos.
00:03:51We're in a culture now where everyone has access to the media.
00:03:56Like we all have our own mini, you know, used to be, I'm older than you, but I grew up in
00:04:00an era of three or four TV channels.
00:04:03Like when cable arrived, that was a big deal.
00:04:05Like, oh wow, you've got like 40 channels, like what, mind blowing.
00:04:09Now there's a, there's a real sense in which we kind of have millions of channels.
00:04:13Like everyone can have a YouTube account and broadcast what they like.
00:04:17So we can all curate a media persona and we all have, we all have access to the airwaves
00:04:24of our choosing.
00:04:25And part of that is employing personas.
00:04:29And as you say, kayfabe, alongside that, you know, as someone who, I mean, I'm a fan of,
00:04:35in a sense, self-impersonation.
00:04:37I find all of that, it's not coincidental that I go into these worlds where people take
00:04:43off the peg identities, like my name is Waldo and I'm a wrestler, you know?
00:04:47And actually, no, your name's Louis Thru and you're a BBC documentary maker or Netflix
00:04:50documentary maker.
00:04:51Do you know what I mean?
00:04:52Or, or the worlds of adult film stars, you know, a lot of these worlds I've gone into
00:04:56are places where you take a new name.
00:05:00And the online world, which I was looking at, the same thing, one of the main guys I looked
00:05:03at is Harrison Sullivan's name, but he goes by HS Tiki Taki online.
00:05:09There's also a guy called just Nicholas Balanthasi and he uses the handle Sneko.
00:05:17So it's another, another realm in which you're performing yourself and you can employ irony.
00:05:26You can employ hyperbole.
00:05:29You can employ a sort of performative self-parody, all of them obfuscating who you really are.
00:05:38But sneaking in the whole time, I mean, I sometimes say puckishly, like there's no such thing as
00:05:43a joke.
00:05:44I mean, obviously there is such a thing as a joke, but the sense in which all jokes contain
00:05:49a masked truth.
00:05:51And so there's a, you can be racist as a joke up to a point, I guess, but there comes a time
00:05:57when actually you're just being racist.
00:05:59Yeah.
00:06:01What's that line about any organization that starts out pretending to be a cult or making
00:06:08a joke about being a cult eventually becomes a cult.
00:06:12Very true.
00:06:13And so there's this kind of double-edged challenge that I had in making a program of wanting to
00:06:23take it seriously as a subject and not wanting to take it more seriously than it deserved.
00:06:29I think there's elements in all these kinds of stories where you can't fall into the trap
00:06:36of being a part of a moral panic.
00:06:42There's a sense in which you have to keep things in proportion.
00:06:44I do think that kids, youngsters are very often able to read media in a way that is quite
00:06:53subtle and they can see the parts of it that are performative.
00:06:56I'm an old school fan of rap.
00:06:58I used to listen to some of the lyrics.
00:07:01If you took them literally are horrific, they're literally about going around killing people
00:07:07and just committing violence and I'm talking about old school NWA and Ice Cube EZ and then
00:07:17that whole era and Tupac to an extent, even to this day, I still like a lot of grime and
00:07:22drill music but you sort of learn how to read it as not completely literal.
00:07:30In the manosphere, there's a similar issue which is I try and employ enough of my own
00:07:41irony, enough of my own sense of recognizing the parts of it that are playful and irreverent
00:07:48and almost kind of enjoyably outrageous and then the parts of it that are just over the
00:07:55line abusive, bullying and factually wildly incorrect because the flip side of having
00:08:03a world which everyone has a media channel, it's not just we all have an ability to become
00:08:07celebrities and perform ourselves in public but nothing is curated and so suddenly we're
00:08:13in a world where it's widely believed by many young people that the earth is flat.
00:08:17It's become relatively normal to say that the pyramids were built by space aliens, they
00:08:24doubt whether we've been to the moon, I mean call me old-fashioned but it's like I have
00:08:30limited patience for that kind of nonsense.
00:08:34One of the things that makes me think of, do you remember the period, the sort of the golden
00:08:37era of American comedy movies, stuff like Anchorman, Talladega Nights, Will Ferrell, Stepbrothers
00:08:44and what me and my friends at university used to do, we'd quote those movies, you know you
00:08:49make those jokes, I Love Lamp or you know like Wow That Escalated Quickly or Rich Mahogany
00:08:53and stuff, those would be the quotes that we would make.
00:08:57I get the sense that a lot of what you're seeing here is kind of taking the place of that.
00:09:05It's people who are sufficiently engaging and viral and outrageous and signature in their
00:09:16style that creates this sort of meme culture below it where it's just thing, it's catchphrases
00:09:26and ways of talking and little artifacts, little cultural artifacts that show that you watch
00:09:33this thing as well and I get the sense that a lot of it is that and the difference is nobody
00:09:42looked at Will Ferrell and thought well that's how you should, that's how a news reporter
00:09:47is supposed to behave or that's what a news reporter is doing but because the line between
00:09:52entertainment and real life has now been blurred so much, it's live streaming but it's also
00:09:56entertainment so well is it live, is this live or is it more kayfabe?
00:10:03I'd agree.
00:10:04I think for me it was both alternative comedy of the 80s who I looked up to and then maybe
00:10:14when I was a little younger, you aspired to be that outlaw archetype whether it was on
00:10:20something like the A-Team or the Professionals or just a badass, a cowboy, a maverick cop
00:10:28and then pop music for me later on, rappers, people who impersonated or affected a kind
00:10:35of an outlaw swagger of being unapologetically into fast cars, having big muscles, flexing
00:10:44how much money you had.
00:10:47To me, you talk to kids nowadays that age 8, 9, 10, ask them what they want to do, they'll
00:10:53say, "I want to either be a footballer or a YouTuber or I want to be either an astronaut
00:10:59or a YouTuber," but YouTuber is basically number one.
00:11:05Every generation comes up and thinks, "How am I different from my parents?
00:11:09What have I got that belongs to me that they don't really get?"
00:11:17That's part of cultural regeneration and actually in almost Darwinian terms, this sort of sense
00:11:23of you join the bachelor herd, you leave the family unit and you begin to birth an identity
00:11:33with your peer group that's independent of the one that you've evolved in the family setting.
00:11:38Alongside that goes certain archetypes of role models.
00:11:42This YouTuber community is like their version of punk, alternative comedy and rap all kind
00:11:49of rolled into one, but the danger is that the stage is no longer just a literal stage
00:11:59like on the set of Top of the Pops or whatever.
00:12:02The stage is now the real world and unlike in the old days where there were supervisors
00:12:07like in the BBC, watching something on the BBC, a TV show or whatever, an alternative
00:12:14comedy show, you had old men in suits saying, "Actually, you can't make that joke and this
00:12:18bit's going to be cut off and this is going up before nine o'clock.
00:12:22You can't have people in scantily clad outfits."
00:12:25Everything was invigilated and scrutinized for its appropriateness for a specific vulnerable
00:12:31audience, but that's all gone out of the window.
00:12:35Kids are on their phones watching endless stream of content that's maximized for engagement.
00:12:41It's the opposite of how it used to be.
00:12:43It's maximized for audience engagement so that if it's women who are half-naked and guys
00:12:49with muscles and inappropriate jokes, that's pushed to the top of the algorithm.
00:12:56I don't want to sound like an old fart, but maybe that's okay.
00:13:01It's just so weird.
00:13:05Parts of that are exciting.
00:13:08It's parts of the new media landscape that genuinely, like as a fan of pranks, like some
00:13:14of the pranks are funny, as a fan of documentary, like fact-based interactions, I enjoy that.
00:13:23Stuff that goes viral because it's a weird encounter or something's awkward, but there's
00:13:27no guardrails that I can see.
00:13:30The people who are rising to the top of the heap are people like Andrew Tate, Nico HS.
00:13:38And the last thing I'll say on that is, and behind all of that, and maybe this was the
00:13:42discovery going into the documentary, behind all of that is an upsell, is an attempt to
00:13:49convert your eyeballs into sales for some crappy product, like a highly dubious online university,
00:14:01a questionable crypto project, an FX trading platform.
00:14:06And because these are your heroes, these are the people you admire, then some portion of
00:14:13those viewers end up buying these crappy products.
00:14:16What do you think is driving this trend?
00:14:18Why around men's issues?
00:14:21Why not around something else?
00:14:24Well, I think it exists among women as well, but in a different form.
00:14:29I mean, it's not something I've studied, but my instinct would be that there's a kind of
00:14:33Kim Kardashian, maybe even Bonnie Blue sort of adjacent realm of induced insecurity about
00:14:43looks that involves the upselling of sponsored content and questionable beauty products.
00:14:53I'm not a huge fan of the whole Instagram look.
00:14:58I feel like there's a whole new female archetype that's being hatched.
00:15:05I quite like people to look natural for want of a better term, but I get that I don't get
00:15:13to set the beauty norms.
00:15:15I think for men, well, they say Instagram is a way for you to compare your insides with
00:15:22other people's outsides.
00:15:24So if like a lot, like I joke that I was an insult before it was fashionable.
00:15:29Like I can relate, you know, I can relate to the feeling of like, wow, why am I, why am
00:15:35I the only one with a dance card with no names on it?
00:15:40You know, I was saying to someone earlier today, like that Morrissey lyric, there's a club.
00:15:44If you'd like to go, you could meet somebody who really loves you.
00:15:46So you go and you stand on your own and you leave on your own and you go home and you cry
00:15:50and you want to die from how soon as now, like that slightly in that could be the incel Anthem.
00:15:57So I understand why men, especially young men, because I think that's important.
00:16:01It's not got it's for the most part.
00:16:02This isn't guys in their thirties and forties.
00:16:05This is teenagers 14 through 18 and 20.
00:16:11And I'd say that based on hanging out with spending time filming with HS ticky tocky sneako
00:16:18and others and, and seeing like this is like sometimes even nine years old, 10 years old
00:16:23coming up and say like, Oh mate, I love you.
00:16:26You're the best.
00:16:28So they're kids, some of them and certainly young men who are trying to figure out where
00:16:35they fit in, in life.
00:16:37And in a world where many of the old entitlements and certainties have been eroded and in which
00:16:45they don't know, you know, they, they, they're looking for some sort of parasocial relationship
00:16:50or sense of connection.
00:16:52And and they want big muscles and a big fast car and lots of money.
00:16:57And that's, that sort of speaks for itself.
00:16:59Right?
00:17:00Yeah, I, it's a good point around the age.
00:17:03I don't really think about it that much.
00:17:04The audience for my podcast, which is many of whom are men, is there's basically nobody
00:17:10below 18 and a big, big, big chunk of them are sort of 20 to 40.
00:17:17So I don't really think about those young kids, but I guess what's interesting is, yeah, maybe
00:17:21if you were to talk about the removal of previous role models, the paths toward legitimacy that
00:17:28men would have been able to hold onto in the past that are no longer there, socioeconomic
00:17:32imbalance between women's performance and men's performance, I, I don't know how, I don't know
00:17:39how many of kids that are 11 years old are thinking about that, are factoring that in.
00:17:46So I don't know, that, that explanatory mechanism does work if you're 22, but I'm not convinced,
00:17:54and you've had time to kind of be rebuffed by a world that you felt you were promised,
00:17:58but never got delivered to you.
00:18:00But I, I'm not convinced that that's the same.
00:18:02So maybe it's more entertainment, but there's less ability to discern whether this is something
00:18:08that's a turned up to 11 joke or it's exaggerated or caricatured for comic effect or is completely
00:18:15not meant seriously or something else.
00:18:18You know, it's a good point.
00:18:19I, I suspect it's, it's a little bit all of the above.
00:18:23I do think that in one sense, if the, if, if TikTok had existed in the 18th century or let's
00:18:33say 19th century at a time when there were, there were jobs in factories and kind of traditional
00:18:39gender norms and archetypes, and I still think actually people would have been kids, young
00:18:45men would be enormously beguiled by it.
00:18:47Like there's a sense in which none of the messaging, you know, you could Andrew Tate's messaging.
00:18:52A lot of it seems to be derived from books like Iceberg Slim's books, where it's about
00:18:58the pimp culture of the fifties and sixties, that, you know, it's this sort of sense of
00:19:03which I can, the idea that I can teach you how women think, and actually you can't take
00:19:09women at their word.
00:19:10They've got a different, they've got a whole different vocabulary.
00:19:13It's sort of like erroneous notions of like, oh, breaking people's spirit and, you know,
00:19:19ugly dark stuff, but it's gone viral as a side effect of a, of an algorithm.
00:19:24So I think partly, you know, even without the collapse of manufacturing in, in the West,
00:19:31you know, parts of the West and, and even without the entry of women into the workplace and even
00:19:37without an attempt to be less prescriptive about what gender roles look like, it would
00:19:44still be enormously enticing.
00:19:47But then you add in some of those other things.
00:19:49And clearly it's even more the case.
00:19:51I mean, I don't know, like if you're 12 or 13, you may not be thinking about entering
00:19:57the workplace, but you obviously are thinking about in some way aspiring to be more than
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00:21:04What do you think the manosphere that you saw is trying to remedy in the world?
00:21:08What are they seeking to achieve?
00:21:13Well, I mean, I think you might be giving them a little too much credit.
00:21:18Like I think they're trying to remedy their pocketbooks to a great extent.
00:21:23You know what I mean?
00:21:25They're trying to achieve wealth for themselves.
00:21:30And you could say that doesn't explain everything.
00:21:32Like, well, they could do that by, you know, I don't know, going out prospecting or trying
00:21:37to find sunken ships, but they clearly have found a way of connecting by, in a sense of
00:21:47appealing to the parts.
00:21:50I would argue the less evolved, the less meritorious, the more primitive parts of our identities.
00:22:00As a sort of what we're living through is a time which our most primal urges, our kind
00:22:07of evolutionary strategies, our drives towards whether it's sexual or tribal, those parts
00:22:15that are controlled by the amygdala, like deep inside the reptile brain have been connected
00:22:19to the most high tech forms of technology.
00:22:23And so, you know, and we're defenseless, you know, we, I don't want to sound super kind
00:22:28of neo-Darwinian, but, you know, the sense is which we are still living with our own kind
00:22:34of software, which was evolved on the savannas of Africa, right?
00:22:39And it's adaptive to certain situations there, fight and flight and whatnot.
00:22:43And then so when someone, when those are deployed and weaponized against us on social media,
00:22:51we are somewhat defenseless.
00:22:53I would say what, I suppose you could say, well, what do they say that they're attempting
00:22:57to remedy?
00:22:58Well, they would say they're attempting to remedy an overly woke culture, a culture in
00:23:02which men have lost touch with what it means to be a man in which women, I mean, to quote
00:23:10Myron Gaines, one of the main people I speak to is a guy called Myron Gaines, are you familiar
00:23:14with him?
00:23:15Yes.
00:23:16So he's part of a double act called Fresh and Fit.
00:23:19They have a podcast in Miami.
00:23:22Their content is very extreme.
00:23:25And Myron Gaines wrote a book called Why Women Deserve Less.
00:23:29And his whole message is that women have been pampered and they are over entitled.
00:23:36And as men, we need to recognize that and give them less and everything will go more smoothly.
00:23:44And so his message would be, actually, men can hack the game of life, you know, I can
00:23:52teach you the cheat codes of life.
00:23:54A lot of it based on old PUA, pickup artistry, supposed hacks, you know, negging women, recognizing
00:24:02that women are, in their words or in their view, status obsessed.
00:24:08And then you can build the life that you would like and would deserve by employing his techniques.
00:24:17I mean, there's a lot more that could be said about that.
00:24:19I mean, I find it so inimical to the way I think about it.
00:24:23I mean, I was raised by a feminist mom, you know, in South London in a world where, yeah,
00:24:32the idea that, you know, my mom was a working mom.
00:24:34I grew up in the 70s in South London.
00:24:36So these ideas are so alien to me that I had to kind of get my head around them.
00:24:41I think a lot of it seems to be based on his interactions with cam girls and OnlyFans models.
00:24:49Like in his world, when he's talking about women, he only really seems to be talking
00:24:54about Instagram models and women who do a lot of social media.
00:24:58Like that gets you some way down to understanding like what his mindset is.
00:25:04But within his sample group, he's in this world where there's this competition in which
00:25:09all women, one of his big things is that women shouldn't go on social media.
00:25:13And if you have a girlfriend, you got to keep her off social media.
00:25:16Anyway, I'm going on a bit of a tangent, but their messages is an unrecon, it's too kind
00:25:23to call it old school.
00:25:24I think it's, it's, it's a sort of, almost a pastiche of maybe a kayfabe off, but certainly
00:25:33a parodic sort of hyperbolic version of some old school masculinity in which men should
00:25:41be able to have sex with as many women as they like, and women should really only be
00:25:49virgins until they marry and then just sleep with their husbands.
00:25:53Maybe old school, but Genghis Khan, old school.
00:25:56Yeah, maybe you take about the Genghis Khan would be probably, that would be their ultimate
00:26:01alpha.
00:26:02Look, I think it's interesting for me having this conversation because I'm accused of being
00:26:07a part of the manosphere very regularly.
00:26:09I got in trouble at the start of this year and a lot of the, I got called, for the first
00:26:12time ever, I got called a Lux Maxer.
00:26:15And I realized when that happened, I realized that Lux Maxer had taken the place of this
00:26:21sort of catch-all term for some guy that we don't like and probably has icky beliefs.
00:26:28It would have previously been maybe some sort of right wing, maybe it would have been like,
00:26:35yeah, like pick-up artist or something else and it's interesting watching your perspective
00:26:43from me as someone who the manosphere has got a huge problem with and I've never claimed
00:26:47to be a part of it and we disagree on a lot of things and the only real alignment that
00:26:54we have is that men watch our content.
00:26:58But I think what I'm taking from your perspective is that it's not necessarily, you don't see
00:27:05this content as being mission driven even if it's framed as being mission driven.
00:27:10You see it as being self-serving primarily for accumulating more fame and wealth for creators.
00:27:23But it's done under the guise of this is part of a bigger mission, that this is a grander
00:27:29plan and that appears to be an effective exploit, kind of like in a computer game, that there's
00:27:35been a hack that's been found and if you couch your pursuit for fame and money under a bigger
00:27:48desire for systemic change, that seems to be an effective way to sort of camouflage it.
00:27:54Is that a fair representation?
00:27:58Definitely that.
00:27:59I mean, even to go further, I think there's parts of it where it isn't even so much that
00:28:07it's camouflaged as mission driven, although it may be, but also that it's exploiting vulnerabilities
00:28:16or maybe deliberate parts of the algorithm in order to draw more eyeballs.
00:28:24In other words, I don't even, even Myron Gaines would say a lot of what he says is to be outrageous,
00:28:33to get people's attention, to wake them up.
00:28:36They do sort of walk back, some of the things they say are so horrific, I don't even want
00:28:42to really repeat them, but it's so sort of horrific in terms of seeming to endorse sexual
00:28:49assault or certainly minimize it and saying things like, as I said, women shouldn't vote.
00:28:57I think he said at one point he thought gay people should be rounded up and put in special
00:29:01camps.
00:29:05I don't know that he'd necessarily believes that.
00:29:09In fact, if you talk to him, sometimes he'll start walking those back.
00:29:13He'll be like, "Oh, well, I'm not literally saying."
00:29:16What I mean is they start pausing it and sort of making it sound more acceptable, but then
00:29:24you're right.
00:29:25There is a part of it where they are advocating a return to a certain more male centered version
00:29:33of society, but actually it would be wrong to say that that's their signature because
00:29:39there's plenty of people, conservatives, let's say, who might take a similar position.
00:29:46That's not really their identifying characteristic.
00:29:50Really what singles them out and defines them as extreme manosphere is the willingness to
00:29:55embrace a kind of paranoid conspiratorial mindset to employ outrageous, I would say utterly cynical
00:30:05click-based content creation and then all of it with a view to grift.
00:30:12Behind it is an angle.
00:30:16It's an attempt to reach a market and someone like HS Tikitoki, he's Essex born.
00:30:25Like a lot of these guys, single parent home, a home in which certainly for Tate, the chaos
00:30:34in Tate's household growing up, he talked a lot about how his dad would come by and beat
00:30:40him up.
00:30:41"You grow up real quick.
00:30:42One good ass whipping," is one of his quotes.
00:30:45The idea that there's massive educational value in being beaten up by your dad is kind of extraordinary
00:30:54and probably some kind of a compensation by him, right?
00:30:57Some attempt to extenuate.
00:31:00You've got this line in the doc, you say, "The romance, the confidence, the wealth were all
00:31:04either illusory or out of reach and the anger seemed a compensation for the fear of being
00:31:09exposed."
00:31:10Yeah, well, because actually they're saying if you follow my part, if you take my advice,
00:31:21I'll give you the cheat codes to life and you will be rich like me.
00:31:27But the way they teach you to be rich is generally not the way they got rich.
00:31:33If they are rich, because the other part of it is it's not clear how much of it is even
00:31:38real.
00:31:39I mean, there's so much false content, there's so much misleading advertising in my opinion.
00:31:50The idea that, "Oh, if you want to be a multimillionaire, just do what I did and go on this FX trading
00:31:58platform," and you're thinking, "Actually, I'm pretty sure HS ticky-tocky made his money
00:32:04by streaming for 10 hours a day and taking a cut of the products that he's selling not
00:32:11by trading on FX," you know what I mean?
00:32:17There's a sort of a bait and switch going on.
00:32:21Then with Tate specifically, he came up kind of as an offshoot of the PUA community, the
00:32:28pickup artistry community, and then using this sort of Neil Strauss, the game adjacent techniques
00:32:36in order to say that, "I can teach you the psychology of women, and then you can run cam
00:32:41girls and you can be a pimp."
00:32:43One of his first products was the so-called PhD pimp-in-hose degree.
00:32:52He's tried to walk that back now, but obviously the whole paper trail is there online describing
00:32:58how you have to get a girlfriend and have sex with her, and then she'll fall in love with
00:33:04you, and then you introduce her to camming, and then you take her money.
00:33:07Meanwhile, can I add one thing to that, and then he'll say in other interviews, "Oh, yeah,
00:33:12I did this thing where I taught people how to make money by being 'a pimp,' but it doesn't
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00:33:21You can't teach that."
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00:34:40What's the link with childhood experiences here?
00:34:43You mentioned some patterns of fatherlessness or strife in the upbringings.
00:34:50Yeah, I mean, I hesitate to play armchair psychologist, but let's do it anyway.
00:34:57It's definitely the case that of the people I interviewed, the ones whose backgrounds
00:35:03I looked into, that was the business guy, business guru, and friend of the Tates, Justin Waller,
00:35:11and also HSTickyTocky.
00:35:14And Tate is obviously exhibit A. There was this sense in which there was no father figure
00:35:19present in the home.
00:35:23There's a self-identified progressive, like actually I think all kinds of flavor of family
00:35:35can work, but it's noticeable how much trauma there was in the homes of these people.
00:35:42And also, just unpredictability.
00:35:45It might even be that the first go-to would be like, "Oh, I guess a dad in a home would
00:35:51be good."
00:35:52And I tend to think if it's an option, dads bring a lot to the table, the risk of stating
00:35:58the obvious.
00:36:00But just stability, just some sense of knowing that there's some regularity and some kind
00:36:06of sense of security in the home, both financial and emotional.
00:36:12And yeah, it goes without saying, if your dad's coming around beating you up, that's going
00:36:17to kind of create an almost apocalyptic mindset.
00:36:20Like I've said in the past that there's parts of the Tate message, this message where you
00:36:26can't trust anyone.
00:36:30Only you can depend on yourself.
00:36:32You got to be a warrior, a warrior, and go out there and women are at risk of being attacked.
00:36:40That's why you can't let your wife out on her own because you got to be a warrior and she
00:36:44could be...
00:36:45Actually, if you were living in the time of Genghis Khan, maybe, or maybe like there'd
00:36:52been a complete collapse of society and marauding bands of warlords were taking over the streets,
00:36:59the tumbleweed strewn streets, and we were sort of foraging in cracks in the gutters.
00:37:05Like, "Okay, yeah, I guess you would have to be like a warrior."
00:37:08But that actually isn't, not yet anyway, the society that we live in.
00:37:14But I do think that if you come from a somewhat apocalyptic home life and you have to evolve
00:37:20this sort of warrior strategy in order to make sense of it, where your dad is marauding into
00:37:27the house every now and then, then you can see how that would be an appealing mindset.
00:37:33And here in his brother, you get the sense of them being trauma bonded and in a world
00:37:38where nothing outside their tiny unit is solid or quite trustworthy.
00:37:45And then you roll that out and kids are like, "Yeah, I want to be a warrior.
00:37:48It sounds kind of cool.
00:37:49Like, it sounds bad-ass."
00:37:51And it becomes an all kind of all-encompassing model for how society should be.
00:37:57If that's the case, if it's so common that a lot of guys who are growing up to talk in
00:38:04a vociferous manner about how to survive the world, about self-sufficiency and sovereignty
00:38:09and not being able to trust and standing on your own two feet, and that's come out of difficult
00:38:15childhood experiences, fatherless homes, maybe some neglect or dysfunction or abuse.
00:38:26In many situations you'd say, "Well, that deserves sympathy."
00:38:28- Oh, I agree.
00:38:33And in fact, I do think that I've attempted to extend empathy to...
00:38:40I tend to think like those categories of victim and perpetrator can be too binary.
00:38:49You sort of see ways in which these guys, these influences are...
00:38:54I mean, I feel bad for what Andrew and Tristan Tate went through.
00:38:58It's quite painful.
00:38:59We have a little picture of him age four years old.
00:39:01You think, "What did that kid go through?"
00:39:03And then similarly, we meet someone called Ed Matthews, who's a friend of HSTickytock.
00:39:09He's another streamer who gives vent to some conspiracy theories.
00:39:15But you also see him when he's, I think, nine or 10 years old going online.
00:39:18- Eating marshmallows.
00:39:19- Yeah, eating marshmallows, talking in a slightly YouTube mid-Atlantic accent.
00:39:24Can you say Fuzzy Bunny or something?
00:39:26And you just see that he's a guy who grew up more or less online, raised by YouTube.
00:39:33They used to say kids raised by wolves in the woods.
00:39:36He's been raised by an algorithm.
00:39:38And what does that do to you?
00:39:40Well, it turns out it sort of turns you into Ed Matthews.
00:39:43So yeah, I think it's appropriate to have empathy.
00:39:45And I think the part that we don't really dig that deep into is the tech side, the ways in
00:39:50which...
00:39:51Who's behind this?
00:39:52Because it's kind of gray engineers and business people who've programmed social media platforms
00:40:00in order to keep us online for as long as possible.
00:40:03But we're all defenseless.
00:40:04I have no superiority when it comes to...
00:40:07My algorithm has me by the short and curlies.
00:40:10I go onto Instagram to send a DM to someone.
00:40:13And then 20 minutes later, I'm looking at videos of a woman playing the piano with her breasts.
00:40:18It was a real one that came up.
00:40:20Not naked.
00:40:21She wasn't naked.
00:40:23Someone sent that to me.
00:40:24I'm like, what the hell?
00:40:25Don't send that to me.
00:40:27These platforms are really good at hacking the bottom of our brain stems.
00:40:31And yeah, I guess it's an interesting challenge to think...
00:40:36I had this guy on the show, Stuart Russell, and he wrote the book on artificial intelligence
00:40:41up until probably about six, seven, eight years ago.
00:40:46And he explained to me about how these algorithms work, these black box algorithms.
00:40:51If you ask a YouTube, the YouTube engineer, let's say there was just one.
00:40:55So what is the algorithm?
00:40:57What does it do?
00:40:58It can tell you what the output is, but no one can tell you how it works because it's
00:41:02self-training.
00:41:03It's trying to maximize, largely, click-through rate and time on site.
00:41:06It's like, get people to press a thing, and once they've pressed a thing, get them to stay
00:41:10on the thing.
00:41:11That's kind of it.
00:41:12Maximize time on site.
00:41:13And what he taught me that was really interesting, and I think adds a really cool flavor whenever
00:41:18you're watching anything on the internet, especially if you see this kind of runaway escalation
00:41:22effect of any type of content, is the algorithm can do two things to make you more likely to
00:41:33click on a piece of content.
00:41:35First one, which most people understand, is it can become better at predicting your preferences.
00:41:41I know what you like, and I am able to deliver that to you in a good way.
00:41:46The second one, which is way more pernicious, is it can nudge your preferences to be easier
00:41:52to predict.
00:41:54So if it's able to engineer you, and typically if you're out on one end, either right or left
00:42:01or up or down based on whatever ideological map you want to use, it is far easier to predict
00:42:07how you're going to behave.
00:42:08Because if you're in the middle, you might fall one way one time and then another way
00:42:11the next.
00:42:12And I realized as he was talking, oh, well, there's also an implication here for the people
00:42:18making the content, because if the algorithm is training the feedback mechanism of the preferences
00:42:24of the people who are watching, it's also doing it to the people who are incentivized
00:42:29to maximize the people that are watching.
00:42:31Because we, me and you, you've got podcasts and stuff, you've got metrics, you can see
00:42:38what you're doing that is effective.
00:42:40There's a retention curve.
00:42:41Oh, I said this thing.
00:42:42Oh, that was an...
00:42:43We should do more segments like that on the show next time, or I don't know what reporting
00:42:47Netflix gives or has or whatever, but in a documentary, people screen test movies and
00:42:53stuff, right?
00:42:54That's kind of the same thing.
00:42:55Why are you screen testing a movie?
00:42:56Because you're trying to be shaped by the audience.
00:42:58But this is now being done en masse with metrics all the time, 24 hours a day with an algorithm.
00:43:04And you bring up the dynamics of live streaming and how that contributes.
00:43:09I saw for the first time ever, I was at MrBeast Games 2 premiere in Hollywood at the start
00:43:15of the year.
00:43:16And the first time ever I saw a live streamer in the wild, and I'd only ever seen it this
00:43:22side of a screen before.
00:43:24And to hear someone unironically say, "W cameraman" in the chat, but to hear that in real life,
00:43:33to me, kind of felt a little bit like seeing a school teacher at the supermarket.
00:43:37What are you doing here?
00:43:39You shouldn't be here.
00:43:41Mrs. Henderson, you're supposed to be in history class.
00:43:45But yeah, this algorithm thing, it's becoming better at predicting users' preferences,
00:43:51but it's also shaping the preferences of those users to make them easier to predict.
00:43:55And it has to be shaping the incentives of the creators.
00:44:03And this is what audience capture is, right?
00:44:05That you just begin to throw more and more red meat toward the audience to do the thing,
00:44:10to say the thing that they are going to agree with, that they're going to respond to.
00:44:16So yeah, the algorithms are warping, but they're warping in kind of all directions, including
00:44:22kind of vertically integrated to back up the production stack.
00:44:25100%.
00:44:26And imagine if, as well, you're putting out content that maybe feels authentic to you.
00:44:36Maybe some of it is stunts and pranks, and some of it's skits or interactions with people
00:44:41in the public, but some of it's just monologues or you just talking about stuff.
00:44:45And you're in this continuous feedback loop of being rewarded for some things and not for
00:44:49others.
00:44:50What that does to your identity, and if your main relationship in life is with the chat,
00:44:58like a virtual community, the ways in which you would start to second guess who you are.
00:45:04And especially in this realm where we talked about kayfabe, this sort of sense in which
00:45:08there's this unacknowledged fictional dimension that's never really spoken about, how confusing
00:45:14that would be.
00:45:15You would start to think, I don't even know who I am anymore.
00:45:21There's this sort of existential burnout that takes place.
00:45:25I'm really curious, though, when you said the thing about how would they be able to, in that
00:45:31idea of nudging your preferences instead of just pandering to them.
00:45:36How do they do that?
00:45:37Do we know just by giving you more extreme content?
00:45:40The algorithms, Stuart didn't explain the dynamic to me, so I'm just going to bro science it
00:45:46and pull it out my ass.
00:45:47But I think it would be probably to do with a reliable escalation of a pipeline.
00:45:53I hate using that word because it's always thin end of the wedge.
00:45:58You start off watching Jordan Peterson and before you know it, you're at a KKK march,
00:46:01which I don't think is necessarily true.
00:46:04But I do think that if you were to come up with a way to imagine that the algorithm was
00:46:10able to see, because what it's doing is it's using the preferences of other users that are
00:46:13like you, and it's using their path to help predict your path, right?
00:46:19Because you're a new user, you sign up with a brand new YouTube account.
00:46:24How does it know what humans like generally?
00:46:26Well, he clicked on this and other users like him also clicked on this, and then they clicked
00:46:31on that, and then they clicked on that, and then they clicked on that.
00:46:33And if you can become more and more reliable over time, I can't think of a better word for
00:46:38it, it does create a kind of funnel.
00:46:40It creates a sort of path that reliably takes somebody toward a more predictable version
00:46:47of themselves.
00:46:48And this is why the biggest videos get the most plays beyond the fact that typically they're
00:46:52the best, or they're the most effective at whatever keeping us on site, but also they're
00:46:57the ones that are most reliable from the algorithms perspective, being able to get people to click
00:47:02on it.
00:47:03And especially if you've preconditioned them, like Darren Brown or something, it's a big
00:47:07Darren Brown game where you're trying to sort of lay the scenario so that these beliefs over
00:47:16time become, and also are bucketed.
00:47:21People are bucketed into more easy to understand groups, and I think typically that pushes people
00:47:27out toward the edges.
00:47:29What I observed was that in the streamer community, and this is self-evident, that there's this
00:47:36pull towards obviously engagement, and that that involves antisocial behavior.
00:47:41So one thing that we filmed was HS Tiki Toki setting up what he called a Predsting.
00:47:48This was a big trend, I think, last year where people would set up dates with someone pretending
00:47:54to be underage, and then the person would arrive, the alleged predator, and then the
00:48:02streamer would humiliate the person, say like, "You're a filthy Pred, you're a filthy Pred."
00:48:07And in the case of the one we watched, they beat him up.
00:48:12And it was really dark.
00:48:14It was really dark.
00:48:16It felt like, you know, we used to say, you know, back in the day, there was this vision
00:48:20for what dystopian society would look like where this sort of top-down justice, public
00:48:24executions or hunger games.
00:48:27And my episode was like, we've kind of created a million hunger games that are self-inflicted.
00:48:32You know, there's these sort of, yeah, individually curated reality shows where anything goes.
00:48:42The other part of it was that in the chat, because you've got these people kind of...
00:48:46It's not like they're not quite your friend, like often they're like trolls, right?
00:48:51And with HS, because he started questioning, I mean, I should wind up and say, I should
00:48:57wind back and say that in filming the documentary, I was aware that they would be filming me.
00:49:02And that was both a price of entry, but also kind of an opportunity to tell the story in
00:49:07a slightly different way where I'd film them, they'd be filming me, we'd incorporate some
00:49:13of their content into the filming.
00:49:14Then after I leave, they go back on stream saying like, "I don't know what Louis' game
00:49:18is.
00:49:19I think he might be trying to fuck me, but I'm not sure anyway."
00:49:22And then all these comments come in saying like, "Bro, he's going to finish you, you're
00:49:29a cooked bruv, HSL, major L for ticky tocky, Faroo's going to dunk on you, bruv."
00:49:40And then he starts talking back to the chat and it becomes this sort of spiral where he
00:49:45starts questioning his decision to take part.
00:49:49And we were kind of whipped up almost like a kind of gladiatorial scenario by the crowd,
00:49:55like, "Come on, finish him."
00:49:58The crowd is like these comments that come in the chat and they're egging us on to ramp
00:50:03up the aggressiveness and the tension.
00:50:06So there's this natural tendency towards everything becoming combat, whether it's a zero-sum approach,
00:50:17which is entertaining.
00:50:18It goes back to what you said at the beginning about this sort of metaphor of wrestling, but
00:50:24it ends up being, I think, rather exhausting and it's obviously a very limited way of observing
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00:51:33Well, what I saw with my live streamer in the wild was it's kind of like permanently
00:51:44edging your audience with no orgasm at the end because if there's a payoff that is a lull
00:51:50and that means that your numbers are going to go down, the live stream numbers are going
00:51:55to go down, so it always felt like a cliffhanger at the end of a TV show because we were stood
00:52:02in the line for the red carpet five, ten yards away and I was fascinated so I'm just like
00:52:07locked in watching this guy and we don't know what's going to happen next, I don't know if
00:52:14we're supposed to be here, this is the thing that's coming up, there was always anticipation,
00:52:18there was always this thing's going to happen and this thing's going to happen and this thing's
00:52:21going to happen and yeah, it is a, I think it's maybe a little different when it's not
00:52:29IRL stuff, if it's not, if you're sat in front of a computer, typically your, the pace is
00:52:35a little slower, you're reacting to things as it comes up, you're able to, you know, converse
00:52:39a little bit more with the chat but yeah, if you're in the real world, yeah, now we're going
00:52:44to go and go down the strip in Marbella, now we're going to go on the back line, now we're
00:52:48going to go and so yeah, there is this ever escalating sort of dopamine spiral that needs
00:52:55to be played and if not, then the numbers go down, the numbers going down is bad and the
00:52:58chat says that it's, you're literally, it's not like in the old days, oh how are the ratings
00:53:03last night, oh they haven't come in yet, we'll get them in a couple of hours, this is constant,
00:53:08you can literally see how many people, every second, this second, the next second, and also
00:53:13meanwhile, meanwhile, as they're going, some guy, some clip, there's a team of clippers
00:53:18who are taking short clips, each one about, you know, five to 20 seconds long with a little
00:53:24headline like Tharu finishes HS or HS wasn't expecting Tharu to say this or HS's mum is
00:53:32having a pop at Tharu like, almost like, you know, tabloid headlines and then they just
00:53:37put them out like, so there'd be 50 or 100 or 200 of those clips based on a conversation
00:53:43of a few hours and then whichever ones perform well, like, we're so, you know, I have a podcast,
00:53:49we put out social media content, we'll put out like two or three clips, I mean, we're
00:53:52probably still in the dark ages and then one of them did well or maybe none of them did
00:53:57well but what we should be doing is pretty, like, these guys put out like a hundred and
00:54:01then one of them gets picked up and then that gets turbocharged and is seen, I had the dubious
00:54:08privilege of coming back from location, this is the first time this has happened and arriving
00:54:14back and my kids would be like, dad, what were you doing with HS?
00:54:18Why were you, like, I saw that, what were you thinking when you said that thing or why did
00:54:22you not answer his question about such and such or they had seen it all already, not like
00:54:27on a live stream, it had just been fed into their social media feeds, I've never had this
00:54:32weird sense of being eavesdropped upon all the way through the filming process.
00:54:39It wasn't by some secret police or a private investigator, it was by the camera team, yeah,
00:54:43it wasn't you with escorts in middle America, it wasn't you with some fundamentalist religious
00:54:50cult, it wasn't you with whatever and then you coming home, I mean, I have to imagine
00:54:56that probably your kids brought up more questions to you about what was going on there than they
00:55:01do if they've watched your documentaries because it feels live and emergent and it's going
00:55:05on in this way.
00:55:08Yeah, I think it's, I'm curious to see what they make of it, like, well, I say that, I'm
00:55:14already second guessing that, I am curious but I also, one of the things, I grew up with
00:55:21a dad who had a public profile, he's an author called Paul Theroux and, you know, it's something,
00:55:28I don't know if you had this or not but it's something, when your parent is famous, they
00:55:34have a dual persona and you're very conscious that the public one feels false, like, I just
00:55:40remember thinking like the dad, the version of my dad that existed in newspaper profiles
00:55:46or as a kind of character in his books wasn't someone I particularly recognised and I imagine
00:55:53it might be the case with my kids and I'm obviously very keen that they should see me
00:55:59as dad and not Louis Theroux quirky documentary maker and definitely not Louis Theroux like
00:56:08Stooge or Patsy or kind of sort of butt of HS ticky tockies, humiliating jokes, you know,
00:56:20but that being the case, they see what they see on social media, they've been surprised,
00:56:25not surprised but they've been kind of reassuringly relaxed about me appearing on their streams,
00:56:34I've been joking, they said, dad, you got cooked by HS, I don't think they actually ever said
00:56:38that.
00:56:39Yeah.
00:56:40Well, look, not to me anyway.
00:56:43The fact that you're in this sort of weird panopticon of, what was it that Stuart Lee
00:56:47referred to it as Stasi for the Angry Birds Generation, it's state surveillance run by
00:56:55gullible volunteers.
00:56:58That's a great, now, that's panopticon, you had me at panopticon actually.
00:57:03I'll keep going, I was shamelessly repurposed- Should we tell the people like, but yeah, panopticon,
00:57:09a term I think coined by Jeremy Bentham, the utilitarian philosopher and social reformer,
00:57:15which was the idea that a prison of like 10,000 people could theoretically be staffed by one
00:57:21or two people who were in a central kind of lighthouse that surveilled the entire structure.
00:57:28But you're right, we're in this sort of mutually, well, I can't really do better than what you
00:57:35just did with the Stuart Lee quote, we're in a self created kind of all facing panopticon.
00:57:40Yeah.
00:57:41Well, look, panopticon.
00:57:42I'll tell you what's interesting for me, the strange thing, at least a little bit is, I
00:57:48know pretty much everybody that was in the documentary in one form or another, I've either
00:57:52spoken to them, texted them, I haven't published any episodes with anybody.
00:57:59But I've been for dinner and I've been tangential, I guess.
00:58:04I think the thing that's weird for me, or that's a little bit of a challenge for me is that
00:58:10it's difficult to speak to issues that men face without being lumped into this very broad
00:58:16term that sort of concept creeped out to include manosphere.
00:58:20I mean, feminism includes maternal feminists, someone like a Louise Perry who campaigned
00:58:25against rough sex killings and is very pro-family and sort of the most anti-natalist, super liberal,
00:58:34super progressive woman.
00:58:37Feminism is a very big broad bucket term that includes everything.
00:58:40And I think that manosphere is basically, meninism was just too weird of a term.
00:58:44So manosphere is sort of the online equivalent of what feminism is.
00:58:49And shared audiences don't really indicate shared motives.
00:58:55But I can say as somebody that I think I do good work, I think I try to create a balanced
00:59:00approach for helping men and women to understand each other and improve their lives.
00:59:06But it's a difficult needle to thread to just talk to men at all.
00:59:13And you use a small clip, I think of Scott Galloway at one point in the documentary.
00:59:21Richard Reeves as well from the American Institute of Boys and Men is sort of tangential to him
00:59:25or Arthur Brooks.
00:59:26Like is Arthur Brooks and Scott Galloway, are they really the fucking cutting edge of misogynistic
00:59:32content online?
00:59:34And then I see someone like a Scott Galloway talk about guys should be strong or they should
00:59:42go to the gym or young people should go out and have experiences and make mistakes.
00:59:47And he's concerned about the decline of alcohol.
00:59:49He thinks that people should be going out and getting drunk when they're young and whatever.
00:59:55I think it's difficult or I found it increasingly difficult to be able to speak to the issues
00:59:59of men and boys and what's happening with gender relations and sex and declining coupling
01:00:06and all that stuff.
01:00:08It's becoming increasingly difficult for me to do that without being lumped in with audiences
01:00:17that may crossover but ideologies that don't really have all that much in common.
01:00:25It's been a really interesting challenge because obviously people are pointing at lots of the
01:00:29same issues but their diagnosis and then treatment plan diverge an awful lot.
01:00:36So it was very interesting watching the documentary.
01:00:39I hear that and I'm really curious to know Chris because you mentioned earlier that you
01:00:43felt you'd had a bit of flack for something or other.
01:00:49Are you able to share anything about that?
01:00:52Yeah, I mean, it's more general flack.
01:00:56It's kind of rain rather than atomic warheads.
01:01:01But yeah, there's disagreements around.
01:01:07Typically it's that I'm too blue-pilled, that I don't see, I know the truth about how men
01:01:15and women are supposed to relate, but I'm not prepared to be sufficiently militant or harsh
01:01:23in my presentation of it.
01:01:25I thought you meant that you'd had flack from the legacy media for being too manosphere adjacent.
01:01:33Oh, that's correct.
01:01:35So yeah, the manosphere think I'm a blue-pilled cuck and the guardian think that I'm a misogynist
01:01:40right winger.
01:01:41So I get kind of ideologically spit roasted from either side.
01:01:45I've got sort of one in the front and one in the back.
01:01:47But yeah, the start of this year was tons and tons.
01:01:51Manosphere influencer, Chris Williamson talks about this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:01:55And that's interesting because the term manosphere has now been inflated to encompass so much
01:02:04that it basically, it doesn't really mean anything.
01:02:09If I am the same as, if me, Richard Reeves, Scott Galloway, are the same as Nick Fuentes
01:02:18and Myron and Justin and Andrew and Sneko, it doesn't seem to be a particularly granular
01:02:28or accurate presentation.
01:02:30And I don't think that they would agree that they agree with much of the stuff that I say,
01:02:34if you were to put it to sort of laid at their feet.
01:02:38Agreed.
01:02:39I mean, the term is highly inexact and actually you're right.
01:02:44And I've been on Theo Vaughn and I've been on Joe Rogan and I like those guys.
01:02:49And I know those have been characterized as- Manosphere, Jordan Peterson would be the same.
01:02:54Andrew Huberman would be the same.
01:02:57And in fact, as you say, there's a huge spectrum within the so-called manosphere community.
01:03:06We debated it a lot in the process of making the film.
01:03:10I said many times, I'm not about to make a film where it's like, look at these guys.
01:03:15They like to have big muscles and they want to make a lot of money, hustle bro culture
01:03:20and whatnot.
01:03:21I don't find that interesting.
01:03:22I don't find it particularly, it might not be my lane, but actually I like working out.
01:03:28You know what I mean?
01:03:29And I feel like self-reliance can be super important.
01:03:35And it's healthy to have a kind of mixed diet of media intake.
01:03:41So my thing was like, oh, and we do try and clarify in the documentary, this is the extreme
01:03:46end of a certain world.
01:03:48And they are a self-identified community, the ones we look at.
01:03:54They very much see themselves, SNECO, Justin Waller, Myron from Fresh and Fit.
01:04:04They are all quite tight, those three.
01:04:08Somewhat adjacent to Nick Fuentes, in fact.
01:04:11And certainly Andrew Tate is tight with them.
01:04:15I think the more we can avoid a conflation of everyone who happens to have a male audience
01:04:22or everyone who advocates for some sort of sense of light, there's certain things that
01:04:26are helpful for men tend to find helpful and it's good for their mental health.
01:04:31As opposed to, oh, the world's run by a shadowy room of, you know, like this conspiracy mindset
01:04:40in the world that I was looking at.
01:04:43It is quite a specific, rather paranoid, I would say, kind of narrow understanding of
01:04:52how the world works and narrow understanding of what men and women are, narrow sense of
01:04:58what achievement and success look like.
01:05:01And that was very much the precinct that I wanted the film to take place in.
01:05:05Yeah.
01:05:06I mean, you're right to say that men's self-improvement often gets lumped in with this stuff, but male
01:05:12forms of self-repair are often treated with suspicion.
01:05:15It's as though sort of any attempt by men to rebuild themselves outside of approved therapeutic
01:05:21and ideological channels is contaminated in some way.
01:05:26If you are, that's probably the best example I can think of, and I'm sure that he's been
01:05:29accused of it, Andrew Huberman, Dr. Andrew Huberman of Stanford is part of the manosphere
01:05:35because what he talks about, like evidence-based ways to sleep better or gain muscle or how
01:05:43much caffeine you should have per day or something.
01:05:47It seems to me that there's sort of two things happening at the same time.
01:05:51One is a big push of which I am unapologetically a part of that I think that the issues of boys
01:05:58and men need to be spoken about more that I don't think that we need to do this ideological
01:06:04land acknowledgement throat clearing before where we identify the problems that all other
01:06:09groups are facing before we can turn our attention to men because we don't have to do the same
01:06:13in reverse.
01:06:14We don't have to acknowledge how many men take their own lives or addicted to drugs or involved
01:06:17in violent crime or go to jail or end up home, et cetera, et cetera, before we can then talk
01:06:22about the problems of girls and women.
01:06:26So one thing is happening, which is I think that there's been some upending of previous
01:06:36roots toward a sense of belonging and fulfillment and status that men would have previously relied
01:06:43on.
01:06:44And I think that that puts them in a kind of a very uncertain world.
01:06:47A lot of the rules that they would have learned from their parents' generation, certainly their
01:06:52grandparents' generation, it's been such a huge generational shift.
01:06:55We've now grown up, this generation's grown up on the internet, relying with online content
01:07:01creators at changing socioeconomic landscape where women out-earn and out-educate men up
01:07:06to the age of 30.
01:07:09All of this, okay, so how am I supposed to navigate this as a man?
01:07:11I don't know.
01:07:12We've got the most fatherless homes that we've ever seen.
01:07:15So the previous patriarchs that would have probably stepped into those shoes and would
01:07:18have filled those sorts of roles, they've now vacated.
01:07:21Okay, so who do we turn to?
01:07:22Well, I've got the internet and this thing's on there.
01:07:24Now again, all of that is, I think, important to be addressed and that young boys and men
01:07:31need to be given some really great role models, archetypes, game plans, blueprints for how
01:07:37to do this.
01:07:38I'm sure that you would, even as a present father, it would be like, the more good information
01:07:43that my boys can access on the internet, the better.
01:07:45That seems like a good, very pro thing to do.
01:07:49And also at the same time, there is a massive moral panic around extremist, vociferous content
01:07:55online that is pipelining boys and men to believe in these sorts of crazy things.
01:08:01And it seems like the legitimate concerns about the second one are used to sort of smear everything
01:08:10from the first one.
01:08:11But as soon as you start to talk about male self-improvement, the fact that I was accused
01:08:20of being a Lux Maxer, a term that's been around as far as I can see for about three seconds.
01:08:25Who accused you of being a Lux Maxer?
01:08:27Some news article, Lux Maxer, Chris Williamson.
01:08:34It feels a little bit like telling somebody, it's a little bit of a strange insult, I suppose,
01:08:41given that I haven't tried.
01:08:43So I just woke up like this Lux Maxer thing.
01:08:49It's just interesting.
01:08:50These two worlds exist at the same time.
01:08:51Right?
01:08:52One with-
01:08:53Yeah, I think that's really well put.
01:08:54I think you broke it down beautifully.
01:08:57Just parenthetically as well, have you been following the whole clavicular phenomenon?
01:09:01I was going to ask whether or not you have an intention of maybe looking at the world
01:09:05of Lux Maxing in future.
01:09:07Clavicular, as they said, because we finished filming our documentary, which by the way is
01:09:13on Netflix.
01:09:14We're going to do a brazen plug.
01:09:16I don't know if it's-
01:09:17It'll be out.
01:09:18Yes, it's out now.
01:09:19It's out now.
01:09:21Which is exciting because I've made stuff mainly for the BBC and this is my first foray as a
01:09:27Netflix, as maker of a Netflix original, it's crazy to think how many like, well, I don't
01:09:33know how many people are going to stream it, but it's available worldwide.
01:09:37But we filmed it until about late last year, like maybe August, September, having started
01:09:43early in the year, like January, February.
01:09:46And then in the following few months, I remember one of my kids came down and was like, "Dare,
01:09:50check this out."
01:09:51And it was some piece of clavicular content.
01:09:54And I did not think he was going to blow up the way he did.
01:09:57I just thought, oh, well, he's a very good looking guy who he seemed, I don't know, like
01:10:03he was just doing what he was doing.
01:10:06And then Ed Matthews comment was like, "Oh, he would have been in the documentary, but
01:10:09he spawned into the game too late."
01:10:11I just like-
01:10:12It's true.
01:10:13It's true.
01:10:14It's kind of true.
01:10:15It's kind of true.
01:10:16They're all avatars of some sort of social media game.
01:10:19The clavicular thing is, I think, different.
01:10:24And the reason that I think that, and I actually think that we're seeing what could be if it
01:10:28takes hold the beginning of sort of the new phase of the Manosphere.
01:10:34So I had this conception, I'll see if you agree with it, that the Manosphere kind of had three
01:10:39waves, kind of like feminism.
01:10:41So the first one was pickup artistry, and that was Neil Strauss in the game.
01:10:44It was Negging, and it was basically completely whitewashed when Me Too came along, because
01:10:51there was no way that this sort of brazen, we just want to have casual sex with women,
01:10:57use them and discard them thing could have survived Harvey Weinstein.
01:11:01It just straight up couldn't have existed anymore.
01:11:03It was seen as too unsanitary.
01:11:05So then what comes out next is more red pill, and that's alphas and betas and cucks and soy
01:11:11boys, and that's kind of the world that you inhabited.
01:11:16And then it seems to me that the next one that might be coming online is actually a disregarding
01:11:24of women.
01:11:25If you listen to what clavicular talks about, he's not bothered about women.
01:11:29It's actually much closer to the black pill than it is to the red pill.
01:11:34It's not about, maybe to some degree, it's about gaining money, but I don't even hear
01:11:39that as a stated goal.
01:11:41It's literally about male-male intra-sexual competition.
01:11:45That's what mocking is.
01:11:46It's about I am the most formidable looking.
01:11:50Even if I'm not the most formidable, I'm not seeing people talking about actually becoming
01:11:54fighters, actually becoming sort of hard men, but just looking like hard men.
01:12:00It's actually a really feminized way of becoming super masculine.
01:12:03It's using cosmetic surgery.
01:12:06It's using beautification and enhancement.
01:12:09It's using different clothing.
01:12:10It's spending a lot of time thinking about the way that you look, not necessarily what
01:12:15you can do.
01:12:16So it's a focus on appearance rather than competence.
01:12:20It's not in any way concerned with women, the approval of women.
01:12:25There is a world in which you could have said that the red pill was the romantic pill because
01:12:29regardless of whether or not it was particularly typically romantic, it was still very much
01:12:33concerned with the approval of women, even if it was in their disregard, the relationship
01:12:40between women.
01:12:41I don't think that we're seeing that.
01:12:42I don't think we're seeing that with women.
01:12:43That's interesting.
01:12:44It's reminding me a bit of MGTOW, men going their own way, which is, as you say, like the
01:12:49ultimate black pill where you sort of think, "You know what, women, I can't deal with them."
01:12:54I was also thinking about, because I think in addition to the message, you have to think
01:12:59about the means of delivery.
01:13:02So much of this, as I said earlier with Iceberg Slim versus Andrew Tate, the message might
01:13:07be similar, but the means of delivery makes it something else.
01:13:11I think Andrew Tate in many respects was a side effect of the TikTok algorithm.
01:13:16You mentioned PUA, the pickup artistry community were communicating largely through books and
01:13:22seminars, like come to Las Vegas for a three-day immersive in how to pick up women.
01:13:26You think about the red pill that was communicated in podcasts and YouTube, but whereas this new
01:13:32iteration is a live streaming phenomenon, and specifically Clavicula, he's not the first
01:13:38looks maxer at all, but he's the first looks maxer that live streams that I'm aware of.
01:13:46In that live streaming environment, it's not like a how-to as such.
01:13:51It's a much more fluid experience of kind of forming an attachment to someone and seeing
01:13:56them exploring the world and getting into scrapes.
01:13:59So he sort of has the luxury of not really needing a message.
01:14:02His message seems to be, other than the fact that if you're really good looking, you can
01:14:07kind of hack the system.
01:14:11He seems politically ambiguous.
01:14:14He seems to say almost anything, I'm always hesitant with almost anything, but his whole
01:14:19thing, he supports Gavin Newsom over JD Vance because Newsom's better looking and Vance looks
01:14:24like a hobbit, and everyone, all the red pill community, it was kind of a weird way, a genius
01:14:31move as a way of distinguishing himself from the red pill, right?
01:14:35He's like, I don't really care about, I'm so empty, I'm so utterly amoral that I'm going
01:14:43to endorse the person who embodies a sort of California progressive mentality, right?
01:14:51And everyone's like, what the actual, that was the most outrageous thing he could do at
01:14:56that point.
01:14:57You know what I mean?
01:14:58Yeah, but he's better looking.
01:14:59Yeah.
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01:16:14So I think one element, what do you agree with them on?
01:16:19What do you...
01:16:20Okay, good question.
01:16:21And by the way, and I also wanted to say, I think your point about people talking past
01:16:24each other, one of the things I have observed in all the years of making documentaries is
01:16:30very often, people who are disagreeing aren't really disagreeing.
01:16:33They're just sort of selecting a different data set and then arguing past each other.
01:16:41You know what I mean?
01:16:42And none of them is particularly disconnected from the facts.
01:16:46There's some truth in that concept of alternative facts.
01:16:48There can be different groups of facts, and then you select the data set that supports
01:16:53your argument.
01:16:54So I could identify toxic manosphere figures and then call you manosphere, and then suddenly
01:16:59you look toxic, right?
01:17:02So I think the conversation has become characterized by a little bit of bad faith in terms of attempting
01:17:10to stigmatize anyone who expresses relatively uncontroversial opinions about, well, maybe
01:17:18there are some differences between many men and many women that are worth considering while
01:17:24never allowing that to kind of be overly prescriptive or lock people into preordained identities.
01:17:29The part that I agree with, I think in general, well, I think I've answered the question.
01:17:36I think in general, it's helpful to recognize there are differences between most men and
01:17:40most women, without privileging them or reifying them.
01:17:45Again, it's kind of crazy that I have to be careful how I say this, but-
01:17:48This is the throat-clearing thing.
01:17:50This is the sensitivity around this discussion.
01:17:53And that actually I'm a fan of, I tend to think, in terms of content, I like self-reliance.
01:18:02I like exercise.
01:18:03I think the idea of aspiring to be the best version of yourself is valid.
01:18:07I think attempting to fix yourself first.
01:18:11Think about ways in which you can kind of attain some kind of mastery over your life.
01:18:21Don't spend your hours endlessly looking at the internet, playing video games, looking
01:18:27at adult content.
01:18:30It's a paradox of the world that much of the Andrew Tate messaging is around like, stop
01:18:36playing stupid video games and stop looking at internet porn.
01:18:41I agree with both of those points, do you know what I mean?
01:18:45But actually, the thing I disagree with is, well, the fact that it comes packaged with
01:18:51a bunch of toxic or just degrading and demeaning content.
01:18:57If you separate...
01:18:58I follow Joe Wicks, I'm a subscriber to...
01:19:00You know Joe Wicks?
01:19:01I do.
01:19:02He's a fitness guru in the UK.
01:19:05And I subscribe to his app.
01:19:06He doesn't pay me anything to say that.
01:19:10And so five days a week, I'm not a gym bunny, you know, maybe one day, but I've got three
01:19:15kids in a business and whatnot, you know, making excuses.
01:19:20But I've got 20 minutes or half an hour in the day and I switched the phone on and I watched
01:19:25Joe and he leads me through a workout, not live, they're obviously they're recorded.
01:19:29And that makes me feel great.
01:19:31So yeah, all of that I'm fully on board with, but what I'm not on board with is the horrific
01:19:39content that's being amplified and the ways in which it's become so small.
01:19:45And they're role-playing, they're sort of role-playing as multimillionaire oligarchs
01:19:51and it's so paper thin, you know.
01:19:54And this idea of chasing money and I'm just not a fan of what they call flossing.
01:19:59Is it like the idea of like showing off your like...
01:20:02Flexing.
01:20:03Flexing is the more conventional term.
01:20:06I think flossing is something, I'm not sure what it is.
01:20:09- Okay.
01:20:10- You're familiar with flossing?
01:20:11- The dance, I thought, I don't know.
01:20:14Okay.
01:20:15- I don't know.
01:20:16- Anyway, okay.
01:20:17So you agree?
01:20:18- I've got full granddad, but you know that whole thing about, "Oh, I'm better than you
01:20:20because I'm on a yacht."
01:20:21I find that so cringe and it just rubs.
01:20:25I mean, I get that like, if you're, you know, I just think that actually we should be better
01:20:31than that.
01:20:32And I also think that, you know, the idea of like, "How can I make a ton of money?"
01:20:34Like, dude, just follow your passion.
01:20:36Don't sign up for a seminar on how to be a millionaire.
01:20:39Just find something that you're good at.
01:20:41- Well, it certainly becomes self-selecting that if you're trying to find, "A good woman
01:20:46who isn't concerned with your material wealth," but what you spend most of your time doing
01:20:50is flexing your material wealth, you're going to attract the sort of woman that is picking
01:20:55up what you're putting down.
01:20:57And it just reinforces, I don't know, it's like every interaction just further confirms
01:21:04what your priors were, and every time that you step further into that world, it just continues
01:21:09to reinforce it.
01:21:10- Big time.
01:21:11I couldn't have said it better myself.
01:21:14But they're in this village.
01:21:15And you know, the other thing is that there's this world in which you think, "Oh, well, you're
01:21:18looking for this, I'm looking for, you know, what's your body count?
01:21:22Oh, my body counts 150.
01:21:26What's your body count?
01:21:27My body counts like 780."
01:21:28I mean, first of all, I find that whole thing really cringe and embarrassing.
01:21:34But then it's like, you should really marry a woman with a really low body count, ideally
01:21:41a virgin.
01:21:42I mean, that's already really annoying and objectionable, but then they surround themselves
01:21:48with OnlyFans girls.
01:21:52And then they're like, "Oh," you know, they're like, "Women are just involved," you know,
01:21:58they'll characterize women as overly, either mercenary or overly sexually active.
01:22:04And then you're like, "But you're in this world of adult content creators, like, none of this
01:22:11is matching."
01:22:12If you want to be traditional values, head up to Utah or Idaho or something, because Miami
01:22:17is not for you.
01:22:19- Miami is a hotbed of the opposite of whatever you're looking for.
01:22:22- Yeah, that's a good point.
01:22:24Look, I think, again, it's really strange for me to be thinking about sort of talking about
01:22:30this from the outside, given that so much of my content crosses over.
01:22:34But I think that much of the hunger for what I'm talking about, and these guys too, is a
01:22:45sort of reaction to a felt lack of sympathy and sort of denial of male pain.
01:22:50And I think if there was more of an acceptance of guys are having a tough time of it at the
01:22:56moment through pretty much any objective metric, I don't think that any group has fallen further
01:23:01faster than men, that's Richard Reeves line from the American Institute of Boys and Men.
01:23:08If it wasn't for the fact that there were no places to go, I think fewer guys would go
01:23:13to the internet.
01:23:16And that creates both kind of the cause, it creates an opening in the market.
01:23:23What's that line about if there are no role models, if you can't propose any?
01:23:28And I think that this is a really great question.
01:23:30In fact, for you, who do you think are some good examples of sort of genuine positive role
01:23:37models that you would say to your boys, this would be the sort of man that you should emulate?
01:23:45Well, the answer that gets bandied around a lot over here in the UK is Gareth Southgate,
01:23:51like the former England manager.
01:23:54I think he embodies a certain sort of dignity and so that's a fair play.
01:24:02And obviously, in a pursuit that many boys aspire to excel in, many girls too, I mean,
01:24:12how long should I come up with a couple more like, you know, there's clearly in the pantheon
01:24:16of program makers, my field, David Attenborough, you know, an adventurer, a world bestriding
01:24:22Colossus of naturalism, a sensitive human being.
01:24:25I mean, I think it is worth saying in that in that scenario that you've depicted of kind
01:24:31of male failure, if you like, like, you know, men despairing like death, that thing of deaths
01:24:38of despair, like suicides and drug overdoses.
01:24:42We should also, as a father of boys, I often remind myself that, you know, the two things
01:24:47that matter most to my kids at various times have been football, English football, obviously,
01:24:53Premier League football, and rap, grime and drill.
01:24:57And those are both worlds in which most of the preeminent, world famous, highest paid,
01:25:02highest achieving exponents are men, and worlds in which, in fact, homosexuality is considered
01:25:09still rather questionable and taboo, like not many openly gay footballers, not that many
01:25:15openly gay rap artists.
01:25:17So there are, I guess I'm pushing back ever so slightly in the sense that there are still
01:25:22realms in which, you know, most of the most successful comedians are probably still men,
01:25:28like, there are still realms in which not just men, but a kind of traditionally masculine
01:25:34presenting man is still ascendant.
01:25:36No, I would agree, I think the difference is between where do the guys who raised to
01:25:42the top and where does the mean, the average man end up sitting because the average man
01:25:48is not going to become a Premier League football or a Ricky Gervais.
01:25:51The average man is increasingly slipping away from going to university, increasingly slipping
01:25:55away from getting a high paying job, increasingly more likely to be addicted to drugs or video
01:25:59games or porn or weed or whatever.
01:26:01And you're right, you're right to say that men dominate the extremes, but they dominate
01:26:09the extremes at both ends.
01:26:11And it's a denial of the slipping back.
01:26:14I think that this is my read that if it wasn't for the case that I am struggling as a man,
01:26:22well, look at your privilege, look at all of these CEOs, look at all of the football players,
01:26:26look at how well, but I'm struggling and maybe many of my friends are too.
01:26:33And there doesn't seem to be a sympathetic place to land for that.
01:26:36Yeah, I totally agree.
01:26:37And I think I'm not a fan of like the casual disparagement of men.
01:26:42And I think very occasionally, maybe more than occasionally that happens like typical man
01:26:48or step back as a man, check your privilege, especially as a father to boys like boys.
01:26:57I never want to be in a world in which boys have kind of inherited an original sin by
01:27:02dint of being boys.
01:27:03You know, it's like, oh, well, you have to, as a boy, you've somehow your bequest is the
01:27:10fact that men have tended to run society for hundreds of years, like, no, he's like five
01:27:15years old, like seven years old, you know what I mean?
01:27:21I know I was joking the other day.
01:27:22Like I remember growing up and they were like, you remember that nursery rhyme, what a little
01:27:26girl's made of, and it's all like sugar and spice and all things nice.
01:27:29And what little boys made of like pigs and puppy dogs tails.
01:27:33And I'm like, remember it was like seven years old.
01:27:35Why am I made of puppy dogs tails?
01:27:37You know what I mean?
01:27:38And that's kind of trivial, but I don't like that sort of frivolous denigrating of maleness.
01:27:48And maybe I'm being oversensitive, but I think it kind of, it's a little unfair.
01:27:53So maybe I'm agreeing with that.
01:27:55But I think the other thing I'd say is, if I want to sound really apocalyptic, we are
01:28:01all both men and women now inhabiting a world in which technology is upended so much and
01:28:09promises to upend even more because God knows when, you know, in a world where I know a lot
01:28:14of it's traced back to the decline of traditional manufacturing, also birth control, women entering
01:28:19the workplace, globalization of the economy, you know, and the fact that a lot of like,
01:28:25you know, traditional manufacturing jobs, moving to places like China.
01:28:29And then what actually most of the jobs like now can be done equally well or better by women.
01:28:36But in a world where AI is going to eliminate most of the jobs that involve sitting in front
01:28:41of a screen, as is sometimes promised, there's going to be this whole other direction.
01:28:45Like, it's going to play out really interestingly, I think, to say the least, in terms of how
01:28:52men and women interrelate, like whether, you know, how sustainable I know, I take is a bit
01:28:58off tangent, but I sometimes think like that, you know, male mental health versus, you know,
01:29:06and how it figures in wider society will be subsumed by some vastly bigger social crisis.
01:29:13Wow.
01:29:14Yeah.
01:29:15Do you know what it is?
01:29:16I hadn't drawn that part of the path down the circles of hell.
01:29:22But you're probably right, that it's all well and good talking about the issues that both
01:29:27men and boys and women and girls are facing.
01:29:30But when 50% of the workforce is displaced by AI, I don't know whether that's going to
01:29:35happen, when some percentage of the workforce is displaced by AI and people don't have meaning
01:29:39and certain jobs have jobs and other people don't feel like they've got a path forward.
01:29:44But it does loop back to what I said before, which is that, if anything, if it requires
01:29:50anything, it requires sympathy.
01:29:53You need to be sympathetic, wow, the world changed really fucking far, really fucking
01:29:59fast.
01:30:02That's hard to navigate.
01:30:04That's hard to navigate.
01:30:05But because, at least at this iteration of it, the men were part of a previously beneficial
01:30:12group.
01:30:13They were part of one that seemed to be afforded privileges, in certain domains, not the privileges
01:30:18to go to war and die and et cetera, but opportunities that weren't afforded to the women.
01:30:24It felt, and I think it feels to a lot of young men now, like they're being made to
01:30:30pay for the sins of the advantages that their fathers and grandfathers had.
01:30:36They're accused of being part of a patriarchy that they no longer feel a member of when they're
01:30:41looking around and saying, "Well, where is my privilege?"
01:30:44And I think that it ties in with, you talk to these two guys and there's a line that they
01:30:50say, "In life as a man, you're born without value."
01:30:54And I think what they mean with that is, it feels to me like there is a kind of love and
01:31:03belonging and acceptance and pedestalization that's given to women and girls that I haven't
01:31:10felt has been afforded to me.
01:31:12I haven't felt as special, I haven't felt as cared for, unless I do something, unless
01:31:17I make myself big and impressive.
01:31:20And again, with that sympathy to go, "Fuck, yeah, previously there would have been a pretty
01:31:26linear progression for you to have found a place in society and done these things and
01:31:32cost of living and uncertain turbulent times and all of these different stimulus that can
01:31:37cause you to be addicted."
01:31:40If you believe in life as a man, you're born without value, that probably requires some
01:31:44sympathy too.
01:31:45Yeah, you're talking about Matty and Chris who come up to Justin Waller, Justin Waller,
01:31:51the business guru, and we're just walking around the streets of Miami and you can see they're
01:31:56in awe of Justin Waller and they're like, "You're our biggest role model and we aspire to be
01:32:02like you."
01:32:03And they talk about, yeah, they feel they've been born without value, which I think is a
01:32:06red pill talking point.
01:32:09Just to say in passing, there's a book, I haven't read all of it, but I've read in it
01:32:13by Susan Faludi, a feminist writer published in the late '90s, I think called Stiffed that
01:32:19talks about the kind of manufacturing and the struggle for male identity in a post-manufacturing
01:32:24era.
01:32:25But I would also say though that in what sense he says like, "Well," I say, "What do you mean
01:32:31you'll be able to be born without value?"
01:32:32And then Justin Waller says like, "If you're a beautiful woman, you get invited onto a yacht.
01:32:36Who's going to invite these guys onto a yacht?"
01:32:38It's kind of a funny moment.
01:32:39It wasn't intended as such.
01:32:41But actually though, then later on, I was like, "Yeah, but what if you're not a beautiful woman?
01:32:46What if you're just a normal looking woman?
01:32:48Then you don't get invited onto a yacht."
01:32:50And also it's a kind of Instagram paradigm- Miami currency.
01:32:58For value.
01:32:59You sort of say like, "If I put my picture on Instagram, no one's going to click on that.
01:33:03But if you're a beautiful woman, they'll click on that."
01:33:05And you're like, "Dude, you have whatever value you have from studying hard or becoming a professional
01:33:11or apprenticing in some kind of occupation.
01:33:14He's just talking about the value that a certain kind of Instagram beautiful woman will accrue.
01:33:22But that's a very narrow lens through which to view life.
01:33:27It's no coincidence that much of this has sort of been born out of Miami and Vegas.
01:33:34Because it's the caricature of that culture.
01:33:37It is kind of skin deep, at least in terms of what's supposed to be traded around.
01:33:42First you're like, "Oh, I guess."
01:33:45And then you're like, "Well, what?
01:33:46Marie Curie?
01:33:47Did she do her Nobel Prize winning scientific work based on having a big Instagram following?
01:33:55Did she like, "Oh, she's hot.
01:33:57Marie Curie's really hot."
01:33:59It's such a weird way of understanding how women achieve success in general.
01:34:07Even think about who you want to spend time with.
01:34:10When I think about the sort of people that I want to hang out with at dinner on a nighttime,
01:34:17some of my friends are horrendous in the way that they present themselves.
01:34:21They are not fashionable, but they're smart or thoughtful or really interesting or really
01:34:29interested.
01:34:30And every time that I walk into a room, I just feel like I'm lit up to find out what they've
01:34:34been working on or what they've been thinking about, what's been going on in their life.
01:34:37They're really patient, super patient.
01:34:39And they're able to sort of sit with silence and awkward or they hold space for someone
01:34:43who's going through a good time or a tough time or whatever.
01:34:47All of those things are impossible to flex online.
01:34:50All of those things are.
01:34:51And yet, when I look at the people that I spend my most time with, I'm surrounded by
01:34:57people who are, many of them are successful in the real world too, but that's as a byproduct
01:35:05of being an awesome person as opposed to doing this.
01:35:11It's almost like if you took it to the extreme, it's almost like a self-bimbofication of the
01:35:16most extreme versions of masculinity.
01:35:18Louise Perry calls it a male-to-male transsexual procedure where you sort of parody the most
01:35:27masculine traits that you can.
01:35:28I mean, you could say that for clavicular, that it really is almost like a male-to-male
01:35:32transsexual treatment where you start off being a man and make yourself as much of a man as
01:35:37you can be through cosmetic surgery and beautification and enhancement.
01:35:41I like that.
01:35:44The other part of it is, and it's reminded me of the game as well, this idea that, oh,
01:35:48you can win at life by using these hacks.
01:35:51And then you realize, actually, if you've been around those guys who are using life hacks
01:35:55like that, it's quite a weird experience.
01:36:00You don't feel good afterwards, you know, that feeling of whether it's being nagged or someone
01:36:07who's deploying certain forms of, whether it's neuro-linguistic programming, you know.
01:36:15And then you think, like, something a little off, like there's something a little off about
01:36:19this encounter.
01:36:20Or if you're in a situation where you'd slept with someone like that, that's got to feel
01:36:26afterwards quite dark, I would have thought.
01:36:28Like it feels like quite a limited strategy for succeeding at life.
01:36:34You're performing masculinity, you're not embodying it.
01:36:38So reverse engineering, what would a man who is this sort of a man do, and rather than
01:36:46make myself into that man, I'll just pantomime his actions.
01:36:52And you know, this was the problem.
01:36:53Don't forget, I'm sure that you did this as part of your research, but the red pill was
01:36:56born out of the PUA hate, right?
01:37:01Like that was the beginning of both red pill and black pill was PUA hate.
01:37:05And the reason that these guys had PUA hate was that they had gone through the pipeline
01:37:10of pickup artistry and either found themselves unsuccessful in that I am such a genetic dead
01:37:17end that it doesn't work at all, or, and I think that this is way more common, because
01:37:23I grew up kind of tangential to the era of the game.
01:37:28Guys realized that they could be successful with women by following neuro-linguistic programming
01:37:32and manipulating social mores to be able to get a woman into bed.
01:37:38But what they found was, look at how much of a different person I have to contort myself
01:37:42into in order to achieve this, this further reinforces my own perspective that I am unlovable
01:37:48as I am, that I need to perform in order to be able to be cared for, that I am not enough.
01:37:54And I have to do this strange, you know, like Cinderella and the pumpkin thing in a desperate
01:38:01attempt to make me sufficiently likable to bed.
01:38:04And then I wake up the next day and realize I did it successfully, but look at the contrast
01:38:09between who I am and who I need to be in order to get love from a woman and therefore love
01:38:13from the world and love from society and be able to belong.
01:38:17And yeah, you're right.
01:38:18If you, and I think we're going to see this increasingly, and you saw this with Neil Strauss.
01:38:23I had Neil on the show two years ago here in Austin, and Neil has now gone through almost
01:38:31a full horseshoe 180 to be completely family-pilled or he's got no desire to be sort of in that
01:38:42world anymore.
01:38:43He's writing books with Rick Rubin about creativity.
01:38:46He's co-parenting with his ex-wife, which I'd never heard of someone doing this, that he
01:38:53says that they're a bad couple, but great parents.
01:38:56So they decided to, after their divorce, have another child that they would co-parent together.
01:39:02And I mean, that is- Wow.
01:39:05That's interesting.
01:39:06Isn't that fascinating?
01:39:07But think that's the guy that wrote the game.
01:39:10And I think that when guys that are socially awkward or feel like they've got a chip on
01:39:14their shoulder, or they weren't recognized in the past, or they've got some daddy issues
01:39:19or some trauma that is either conscious or subconscious or unconscious, then they achieve
01:39:26everything that they thought the world was going to give them that would fix the void
01:39:31inside.
01:39:32They've done it.
01:39:33They realize the void's still there and they go, "Oh shit.
01:39:37Now I'm really fucked.
01:39:38Because when I was poor and miserable, I had hope, but when I was rich and miserable, I
01:39:43was despondent.
01:39:44The thing that I thought was going to fill that void, I've now gotten the void still
01:39:47there."
01:39:49I guess there's two paths after that.
01:39:51One is I need to look deeper.
01:39:53It's evident that my gold medalist syndrome indicates that the gold medal wasn't the answer.
01:39:58The other path is, "Ah, it was two gold medals or three or four or five."
01:40:02That's the solution.
01:40:03I just need more.
01:40:04The dose wasn't high enough.
01:40:05Not that the medicine was the wrong type.
01:40:07Chris, I need to have- I'm going to have to make a move in a second.
01:40:12I've got a child to pick up, but I've really enjoyed talking to you, man.
01:40:15It's been- I hope you're happy with the chat.
01:40:18I am very much indeed.
01:40:19Where should people go to keep up to date with everything?
01:40:21Oh, Netflix.
01:40:22People can go and watch the documentary on Netflix.
01:40:24We've got our film dropping on- Well, it's already out on Netflix worldwide.
01:40:30I've got a podcast I do for Spotify.
01:40:34I make documentaries with through with my company, Mind House, and other stuff swirling around.
01:40:40Wherever you happen to be watching this, if you're in the UK, it's a lot of stuff on iPlayer.
01:40:44In the US, there's something called BBC player, I think, which no one subscribes to.
01:40:51Then some stuff pirated content on YouTube, which is fine.
01:40:54Go and check that out.
01:40:55Beautiful.
01:40:56Louis, I appreciate you, man.
01:40:57I'm looking forward to seeing what you do next.
01:40:58Check your local listings.
01:40:59All right.
01:41:00Thank you, Chris.
01:41:01I'm really glad we could hook this up.
01:41:04It would have been even better in person, but we made it work.
01:41:07That's the important thing.
01:41:08It's a privilege to be on.
01:41:10Thank you for spending the time and for a great conversation.
01:41:13Appreciate you.
01:41:14Thank you, man.
01:41:15Congratulations.
01:41:16You made it to the end of an episode.
01:41:18Your brain has not been completely destroyed by the internet just yet.
01:41:22Here's another one that you should watch.
01:41:26Go on.

Key Takeaway

Louis Theroux and Chris Williamson examine how social media algorithms, childhood trauma, and financial incentives have transformed the manosphere into a performative, often cynical landscape that exploits the vulnerabilities of young men.

Highlights

Louis Theroux explores the 'manosphere' through a new documentary, driven by observing his own sons' exposure to viral influencers like Andrew Tate.

The content creators often use 'kayfabe'—a wrestling term for staged performance—to blur the lines between jokes, irony, and sincere harmful rhetoric.

A primary driver of manosphere content is a financial 'upsell' to questionable products like crypto schemes or 'pimping' courses.

The speakers discuss 'audience capture,' where algorithms nudge users toward more extreme, predictable ideological versions of themselves to maximize engagement.

Chris Williamson highlights the 'concept creep' of the term manosphere, which now often unfairly lumps self-improvement advocates with extremist misogynists.

Modern manosphere trends are shifting from 'Red Pill' relationship advice toward 'Black Pill' nihilism and 'Looksmaxxing,' focusing on intra-sexual competition rather than female approval.

Timeline

Introduction and Motivation for the Documentary

Louis Theroux explains that his interest in the manosphere began as a father observing his sons being exposed to Andrew Tate's viral content. He describes Tate as someone who 'hacked' the algorithm by using outrageous 'ragebait' and an army of clippers to achieve massive reach. Theroux views this project as a 'final boss battle' for his career, combining elements of previous subjects like cults, racists, and wrestlers. The discussion touches on how this content targets young boys by framing misogyny as a joke or 'clickbait.' It highlights the purposeful way these influencers commandeer internet spaces to gain influence quickly.

Performative Identities and the 'Kayfabe' of the Internet

The conversation shifts to the concept of 'kayfabe,' where creators adopt personas and use irony or hyperbole to mask their true intentions. Influencers like Sneko and HSTikiTocky perform for their audiences, creating a realm where it is difficult to distinguish between a joke and sincere extremism. Theroux argues that while jokes are real, they often contain a masked truth that can lead to genuine radicalization or the formation of cult-like groups. He warns about the lack of 'guardrails' in a world where everyone has a broadcast channel but no editorial supervision. This section compares modern meme culture catchphrases to the way people used to quote comedy movies like 'Anchorman.'

Role Models and the Absence of Traditional Gatekeepers

Theroux compares the current YouTube community to past counter-cultures like punk or alternative comedy, noting it serves as a way for youth to differentiate themselves from parents. Unlike the BBC era where 'old men in suits' invigilated content for appropriateness, the current stage is the real world with no supervisors. He points out that the algorithm pushes content maximized for engagement, which often includes scantily clad women and inappropriate jokes. The ultimate goal for many of these 'outlaw' archetypes is discovered to be an 'upsell' to dubious products like online universities or crypto projects. This highlights the cynical financial reality behind the seemingly mission-driven content of manosphere leaders.

Drivers of the Trend: Male Insecurity and Parasocial Needs

The speakers discuss the psychological drivers behind the manosphere, including the 'induced insecurity' that mirrors what women experience on Instagram. Young men aged 14 to 20 are seeking parasocial relationships and connection in a world where old certainties about gender roles have been eroded. Theroux notes that much of the messaging is derived from older 'pimp' culture and pickup artistry that teaches 'cheat codes' for life. He finds these ideas alien to his own upbringing but acknowledges their enticement for kids looking to be 'warriors' or 'alpha.' The segment also includes a brief discussion on the loss of traditional paths toward legitimacy for young men.

Primal Urges and the Weaponization of the Amygdala

Theroux argues that manosphere influencers appeal to the 'reptile brain' or the amygdala by weaponizing primal urges related to status, sex, and tribalism. He profiles Myron Gaines of the 'Fresh and Fit' podcast, who promotes extreme views like the idea that 'women deserve less.' This ideology is often a pastiche of old-school masculinity combined with modern social media tactics to reach status-obsessed audiences. Williamson adds that creators often frame their pursuit of wealth as a 'grander mission' to camouflage their self-serving motives. They agree that this 'hack' is an effective way to exploit the vulnerabilities of young men seeking systemic change.

The Impact of Childhood Trauma and the 'Raised by Algorithm' Generation

Theroux observes patterns of trauma, fatherlessness, and instability in the backgrounds of many top manosphere influencers like the Tate brothers and HSTikiTocky. He suggests these creators adopt a 'warrior strategy' as a compensation for fear or domestic chaos they experienced as children. A notable example is Ed Matthews, whom Theroux describes as being 'raised by an algorithm' rather than a traditional family unit. This section emphasizes the need for empathy toward these individuals as victims of their own dysfunctional upbringings. However, it also warns that their 'apocalyptic' mindset becomes a dangerous model for the millions of children watching them.

Algorithmic Nudging and Audience Capture

The discussion delves into the technical side of social media, featuring insights from AI expert Stuart Russell regarding 'black box' algorithms. The algorithm does more than predict preferences; it nudges users to become easier to predict by pushing them toward ideological extremes. This process, known as 'audience capture,' also affects creators who are incentivized to provide 'red meat' to their viewers to maintain high metrics. Theroux describes the existential burnout that occurs when a creator's main relationship in life is with a virtual 'chat' community. This feedback loop forces creators to constantly escalate their content to keep the audience's attention.

The Dangers of Live Streaming and Vigilantism

Theroux recounts a 'Predsting' event organized by HSTikiTocky, which he describes as a dark, dystopian form of public humiliation and violence for entertainment. He characterizes the live streaming world as a 'mutually created panopticon' where the audience eggs on streamers to engage in gladiatorial combat. Williamson compares the experience of watching a live streamer in the wild to seeing a teacher at a supermarket—it feels out of place and jarring. They discuss the 'dopamine spiral' where any lull in action causes numbers to drop, leading to ever-escalating antisocial behavior. This environment turns real life into a constant cliffhanger intended to maximize 'time on site.'

Concept Creep and the Difficulty of Addressing Men's Issues

Chris Williamson expresses concern about 'concept creep,' where the term manosphere is used as a broad brush to smear anyone discussing men's health or self-improvement. He cites figures like Richard Reeves and Scott Galloway as examples of people focused on legitimate male crises who are unfairly lumped in with misogynists. Williamson argues that the denial of male pain and the lack of sympathetic spaces lead men to seek more extreme answers on the internet. He mentions that men are currently falling behind in education and earning, yet any attempt to address this is often met with suspicion. The speakers agree that the spectrum of the manosphere is far more granular than legacy media typically portrays.

The Shift to 'Looksmaxxing' and the Future of the Manosphere

The conversation concludes with an analysis of 'Looksmaxxing' and the influencer 'Clavicula,' who represents a new phase of the manosphere. Unlike previous waves focused on women, this trend focuses on intra-sexual competition and feminized beautification through cosmetic surgery and 'flexing.' Theroux admits he agrees with basic self-improvement tenets like self-reliance and exercise but rejects the 'horrific content' and cynical flexing of wealth. Williamson notes the irony of influencers seeking 'traditional' women while surrounding themselves with OnlyFans models in Miami. They reflect on how performing masculinity through 'hacks' is ultimately a limited and unfulfilling strategy for life.

Final Thoughts: Sympathy for the Modern Man

In the final segment, Williamson argues that young men feel they are being made to pay for the 'sins' of past generations' privileges. Theroux shares his thoughts on positive role models, mentioning figures like Gareth Southgate and David Attenborough who embody dignity and sensitivity. They discuss the upcoming threat of AI-driven job displacement, which they believe will eventually subsume the current gender-related crises into a larger social upheaval. The interview ends with a discussion on the void inside that many attempt to fill with wealth or status, concluding that the 'gold medal' is rarely the answer. Theroux promotes his new documentary on Netflix before the speakers share mutual appreciation.

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