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00:00:00I started thinking a lot about why the fathers that I know seem to have a different kind of
00:00:06confidence about themselves. And I think it's because of this concept that I can't unsee
00:00:13anymore. So money is a meme, but it's also a truth, right? You money. There's an amount of
00:00:20wealth that you can achieve when the typical restrictions and conventions no longer apply
00:00:24to you. You don't have to suck up to gatekeepers. You don't need to do things that you don't want
00:00:29to do. And in extreme situations, you basically don't even need to follow the law because you can just
00:00:33pay people off. Similarly, freedom is kind of downstream from money, but can also be achieved
00:00:40through cultivating a lack of resilience and reliance on other groups. There's no restrictions on where
00:00:46you can travel to and when and for how long. You don't need to show up to work on time or work at
00:00:53all. And if you're sufficiently well-structured, you don't even need to care about the state of the
00:00:56economy or the power grid or the wider world. This is the, I live in dripping springs on a ranch that's
00:01:02got completely independent power with solar panels and a ton of guns. And it's Tucker Max. This is
00:01:08Tucker Max. I'm talking about Tucker Max there. But I then started thinking about a different type of
00:01:14f*** you liberation, which is significantly cheaper and more accessible and more common and maybe even
00:01:21more powerful. And this is the f*** you family. So a lot of the fathers that I've spoken to have
00:01:28told me about how their priorities were completely changed when they started a family. All of the
00:01:35previous status games that they played seem petty. The games that they used to go through in an attempt to
00:01:41impress people in power or those with status seemed juvenile and shallow. Much of their anxiety around
00:01:49whether different people and groups like them thought that they were cool just sort of evaporated
00:01:56because the only people they needed to care about impressing were asleep under the roof or in the bed next
00:02:05to them. Because to their kids, these dads were the coolest, richest, strongest, most heroic person on the
00:02:13planet. And that gave them a very powerful type of liberation. It seems to me that much of what young
00:02:21men get up to are surrogate activities until they finally get a family. And this isn't to say that all
00:02:28fathers become placid soy boy hippies or that having kids neuters your ambition. But it definitely seems to
00:02:35open up a new level where they care far less about the opinions of others. And ultimately, what's the
00:02:43point in having f*** you freedom if you never say f*** you? I really think that the aggressive,
00:02:52business-chasing, capitalist, meritocratic society thing, which I'm all in favour of and have benefited
00:02:58from, obviously, and love, is playing off the fact that the longer people put off having a family,
00:03:06the more they find activities that replace that same dynamic inside of them. It's the obsession with
00:03:14body or aesthetics or sport or business or wealth creation or status or travel or whatever. That's
00:03:22not to say that any of these things can't be good, obviously. But if you were to have the family, I
00:03:28think that you would find a lot of those. It would be like going around trying to eat a shit ton of
00:03:33different foods that were all nutrient sparse when there was a nutrient-dense food that you could go to
00:03:41that would satisfy a lot of those ambitions more quickly. Does that make sense? It's basically
00:03:45the source that you could go to, like the most pure version of this, the condensed,
00:03:53concentrated, weapons-grade version of a lot of what you're looking for, to me seems to be on the
00:03:59other side of a family. I mean, look, is this hypocrisy? I don't think it's hypocrisy. It's closer to
00:04:06dreaming, right? I am totally open to the fact that I might be completely wrong and I'm going to have a
00:04:12family and my drive is going to go up through the roof and maybe I'm going to be more miserable and
00:04:19maybe I'm going to care more about the opinions of others and what a fucking amount of humble pie I'm
00:04:24going to have to eat if that's the case. I'm just going off what I've seen with other people. I'm going
00:04:29off what I've seen with the fathers around me and stuff. Maybe I've done a post-mortem incorrectly.
00:04:33Maybe I will live to eat my words, but I don't know. Maybe this is just a fucking pipe dream.
00:04:40Maybe it's a pipe dream for me that there's some level of personal development available on the
00:04:44other side of kids. Also not saying that you should only have kids as a selfish way to bypass the work
00:04:53that you need to do to care about the opinions of others. Just intriguing thoughts. I'm just,
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