00:00:00And this is why the notion of the deep life has become, I think, so important.
00:00:10Here's the way I think about this.
00:00:11One way to think about this.
00:00:13My book, Deep Work, I think one of the reasons why that book was popular is there was an issue
00:00:19that people were recognizing in the workplace, which was we're really pretty distracted.
00:00:24Like I'm on email all the time and we're running back and forth and I have all these projects
00:00:27and it seems very frenetic in work.
00:00:30This doesn't seem great, right?
00:00:32Like I'm exhausted all the time and what am I really doing?
00:00:34And what Deep Work came in and said, that book came in and said, yeah, this is a problem.
00:00:38But what I want to give you is a bigger, better offer.
00:00:42Deep Work as an alternative to shallow work that's dominating your day right now.
00:00:46The bigger, better offer was more compelling.
00:00:48Oh, I see what I could be spending my, this instead of being on email all day, I could
00:00:51be producing something really hard.
00:00:53Oh, I want to do that.
00:00:54Bigger, better offer, one out.
00:00:55In our current world with smartphone distraction is constantly looking at this thing to pacify
00:01:02yourself.
00:01:04You need a bigger, better offer.
00:01:05That's what we're missing.
00:01:07We're talking about be worried about TikTok, be worried about meta vibes and Sora, be worried
00:01:11about spending all your time yelling at people on X and mindlessly scrolling through auto
00:01:15recommendations on YouTube.
00:01:16What we're missing in that discussion is the bigger, better offer of what you should do
00:01:21next because you are absolutely right.
00:01:23Without that bigger, better offer, people say, I'll take the devil I know because it's kind
00:01:26of fun than the devil I don't, which is staring into the pit of existential despair.
00:01:31That's exactly what was happening in the workplace.
00:01:33People are like, yeah, we do send a lot of emails, but like what am I supposed to do instead?
00:01:39Just like sit here.
00:01:40They needed a bigger, better offer.
00:01:41This is where the deep work enters the picture.
00:01:43I don't think we can deal with the issues of phones and nonprofessional technology use without
00:01:47giving people a vision of how to make their life so interesting and intentional, autonomous
00:01:51and meaning producing that the idea of looking at YouTube shorts all day is nonsensical to
00:01:57them.
00:01:58They're like, why would I do that?
00:02:00I have this other stuff that's so much more important.
00:02:03And so I say this in part to point out a problem in our current discussion about technology
00:02:07and meaning.
00:02:08I say this in part as a way to have empathy.
00:02:11If you're struggling to put down your phone like you're talking about with your friends,
00:02:15this is not some moral flaw you have.
00:02:18This is not a lack of will or discipline.
00:02:21It is probably a really rational calculus on the part of your mind as saying we don't have
00:02:27anything else to go to.
00:02:30So I'd rather be here than staring into the pit just like late 19th century in the lead
00:02:37up to prohibition.
00:02:38Well, I'd rather be at the bar with like my friends like something to do than just be at
00:02:43the old turf house, pioneer house just depressed, right?
00:02:48You have to have a bigger, better offer.
00:02:49So that's where the deep life comes in.
00:02:50Now, I do have this whole book that's going to be here.
00:02:53So let's like get to some key principles right away.
00:02:55Like what you need to do is you need to fix a contingent vision of your ideal lifestyle.
00:03:00I say contingent so you don't feel like you have to get this right from day one.
00:03:04Good enough for now.
00:03:06What do I want my daily life to actually be like?
00:03:10This has to cover multiple areas on the show.
00:03:12We often call these buckets.
00:03:13You can't just focus on your job.
00:03:15You can't just focus on a single hobby.
00:03:17You got to cover all of the areas of your life and be able to describe in each what you
00:03:20want that part of your life to be like.
00:03:22Two, these descriptions can't be concrete.
00:03:25I want to have this job and live in this town.
00:03:27That's not a lifestyle vision.
00:03:30That's goals.
00:03:31So describe what you want in each of these different areas in terms of first person declarative
00:03:35properties.
00:03:37I live in a city that's high energy.
00:03:40My job is one in which I can be done with work by five and it's not a big deal, right?
00:03:47Like it's not dominating my time.
00:03:48You're describing the properties of the different areas of your life.
00:03:50That's your lifestyle vision, buckets plus properties.
00:03:54Now the whole goal is how do I try to get closer to those visions in each of these buckets given
00:03:59the particular obstacles I face and the particular opportunities I have.
00:04:02I'm not going to start from scratch, but I want to navigate around specific obstacles.
00:04:07Oh, living in this city makes all these things really hard.
00:04:09Well, how do I get out of this city?
00:04:10Oh God, if I could do this, this, this, and this, we could move and that's going to make
00:04:13these other things better.
00:04:15Or I am a computer programmer.
00:04:16How could I use that?
00:04:18That's a valuable skill.
00:04:19Where could I go with that in a way that's going to let me get closer to bucket A, B,
00:04:22and C. And then this becomes the main wheel, cyclical process of lifestyle-centric planning.
00:04:30How do I move closer to these visions, these buckets, repeat, repeat, repeat.
00:04:33And I suggest going bucket by bucket.
00:04:36Let's spend a month just working on the constitution bucket, the bucket about our physical health.
00:04:39Let's do some one-time goals and get in place some new practices and feel good about that.
00:04:43Okay.
00:04:44Now let's move on to the next bucket.
00:04:45All right, now we're dealing with a craft or like my job, not going to solve it all now,
00:04:49but I have this lifestyle vision for what I want, these properties I want in my job.
00:04:53I want to spend a month or two getting closer to that, finishing some project that builds
00:04:57up a career capital store that might be useful in the future, changing up my practices so
00:05:01that I'm not so distracted and my work has less of a footprint on my life.
00:05:04And you move through each of your buckets and repeat and repeat, and at least once a year
00:05:07on your birthday, go back and make sure those properties are right.
00:05:10That is the rhythm for building a deep life.
00:05:12It's not done with one radical change.
00:05:13That's not something that's going to happen in two weeks, but it's going to be accretive.
00:05:17It's going to get better.
00:05:18As you move closer to that ideal lifestyle vision, you're going to feel more self-efficacious
00:05:22meaning you feel like you have the ability to actually produce positive change in your
00:05:26life.
00:05:27You're going to feel more autonomous.
00:05:29And now the distraction merchants are going to see more superfluous.
00:05:32And now suddenly what used to be your lifeline, your pacifier is going to seem sort of trite.
00:05:38It's going to seem kind of embarrassing.
00:05:40You've got stuff you got to do.
00:05:42You don't need to be looking at a video of Abraham Lincoln breakdancing.
00:05:46I got real stuff I got to do.
00:05:49I'm enmeshed in a real community that I'm taking a leadership role in.
00:05:53I don't care about the fight happening on Twitter about some nonsense.
00:05:58This is the type of thing that begins to happen as you begin the cycle of moving closer to
00:06:02your deep life.
00:06:03So I want to end on this question because I think as we enter the new year, the week after
00:06:08you hear this episode, think about the deep life as your bigger, better offer for all
00:06:13this other stuff that's occupying your time.
00:06:15And suddenly that challenge of getting away from the sort of Zuckerbergs and Altmans of
00:06:20the world becomes a lot less something that is scary or seeming impossible and something
00:06:25that will instead begin to seem inevitable.
00:06:27Hey, if you liked this video, I think you'll really like this one as well.
00:06:32Check it out.