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00:00:00nobody owes you patience just because you've had a rough upbringing or a hard day life doesn't hand
00:00:05out pity passes use your pain as fuel not a crutch you don't build psychological resilience
00:00:10by feeling good all the time you build psychological resilience by getting better at feeling bad
00:00:18that is definitely a that was definitely posted in 2025 or 2026 because that was
00:00:24that's the sort of thing that you could not post between like 2016 and 2022 uh it would have gotten
00:00:31me canceled um all sorts of proclamations about white male privilege or whatnot um i mean it's it's
00:00:48it's difficult because there are genuine victims in the world and there are people who have genuinely
00:00:57suffered lots of that is not fair and not their fault and those people deserve sympathy
00:01:08but they don't deserve they don't necessarily deserve anything more than that and
00:01:17i think we're kind of coming out of this period but we went through a very intense period
00:01:21where there was a lot of entitlement associated with like i i think in one of my books i called
00:01:28it the victimhood olympics right it's like and you see this now with like a lot of like super
00:01:33lefty groups you know it's it's like well i am a abused indigenous person of color who grew up with
00:01:40three legs and and then it's like the next person is like well as a person who grew up with one leg and is
00:01:46a abused transsexual indigenous person like my voice actually carries more weight than yours and i've
00:01:52got gluten intolerance yeah yeah and it's it's like at a certain point it's like who care like what are
00:01:59you gonna do correct right like what you can't uh you can't like just sit around measuring your pain
00:02:07every day as if it's like uh you know it it earns you merit badges i've had to pull this up this is one of
00:02:14the best takes so alex homozy got in trouble for saying this the same thing that nobody owes you
00:02:20patience just because you've had a rough day or a hard upbringing yeah and he wrote a response this
00:02:24is fucking money by him if you had disadvantages i agree with you you are right it's harder to be
00:02:31successful if x happened to you replace x with gender race birth deformity different language different
00:02:37country abuse etc the main point of the longer conversation is that despite the disadvantage
00:02:44you only have one choice what are you going to do about it number one take action anyway and become
00:02:50proof to other people like you your people also born into this abused tragedy that you too can overcome it
00:03:00and they can as well number two blame and complain and to be clear do whatever you want i support your
00:03:07choice but only one of those decisions will make you better and i wish i could say this without
00:03:12getting attacked but you know who wins by you not being successful whoever and whatever you blame
00:03:18fuck that and fuck them you can lead a rebellion of one and blame the one thing you can control which is
00:03:25you in your mind redefine the word blame as give power to and when you do that there's only one person
00:03:33you're going to want to give more power to and that's you for everyone who had shitty circumstances
00:03:38i'm on your side your long-term side the side that wants you to win so do it anyway with all the
00:03:44disadvantages and still tell them to shove it and win i want to be clear again if you had tough
00:03:52shit happen to you it sucks and that's not your fault but now what where do we go isn't it crazy how
00:03:59many caveats and like you know throat clearing land acknowledgements yeah yeah yes dude i got in i i
00:04:06continue i continue to fucking get in trouble by saying things that to some people doesn't land right
00:04:11and to other people becomes a mantra that they live by and yeah the the i understand because
00:04:21creating any goal to aim for and degree of obligation can make people who feel like that's out of reach
00:04:32for a reason that isn't their fault feel like they are being made to pay twice for something that hurt
00:04:38them and that fucking blows but it also makes communication really clunky and i hate it yeah like
00:04:46it's so yeah over and over and it's such a a shallow form of empathy as well yes to assume that the only
00:04:56way that you can be caring is if you think about the middle 90 percent minus the two fives on the end
00:05:03that are obviously unrealistic for you to have thought about that you have to include all of these people
00:05:09as opposed to hey i'm speaking to a very specific cohort of people now yeah it i would argue the
00:05:16empathy is actually completely disingenuous because it's right like if i'm empathizing with somebody
00:05:22strictly because of their the color of their skin and their gender and their sexual orientation like
00:05:29that's exactly what they don't want to be empathized for correct so it's it's it's backfiring like
00:05:36the whole strategy is backfiring in the first place we were talking before i did my show in australia and
00:05:41to the people who came to the sydney show you will remember that um james came out swinging when he did
00:05:47his warm-up set before me and he made a comment part way through which was uh i hate to say it but i'm
00:05:53racist and i'm racist against a very unique group of people and it's italians he says i know that i'm
00:05:59racist against italians because i love the food but i still don't like the people and there was a lady
00:06:05a lady halfway through the show who piped up and said that i was made to basically do the apology for
00:06:13james she piped up and said i really think that you need to be more careful about you know some of
00:06:20the sort of judgments that are being made in the show i'd i'd make a joke and james had made a joke
00:06:24and she's like you know this is sort of can make people uncomfortable and it's exclusionary and all
00:06:28the rest of it it was one of those moments where i'm like there's like 2499 other people in here
00:06:34looking at me to see if i can handle this situation and uh i i realized that true equality is when you
00:06:43have to put up with the same level of that everybody else does if you want to be properly properly
00:06:49included the most inclusive society it's to not be treated with kid gloves yeah if you told me that
00:06:57somebody was treating me differently because they thought that i couldn't handle it or something
00:07:02that is a kind of bigotry and patronizing cotton wool gentleness that would make me feel so
00:07:10fucking icky be like oh my god you are not my friend you are not my friend yet does that mean
00:07:17that you push the person who's only just started training at the same level that you push the
00:07:21person that's a professional athlete obviously not but when it comes to including people in discourse
00:07:28i think that yeah true equality is when you put up with the same level of that everybody else does
00:07:34that's funny in australia man i i'm just remembering i did a show a couple years ago in brisbane
00:07:41and uh i had this bit in the show i was talking about freud you know do they do this in your shows
00:07:48out there so australia has this thing where they have like the sign language person on stage
00:07:52no signing for everything did they have one for you yeah okay like all all of my do you have many
00:07:57death fans in australia brisbane i don't know i never hear from
00:08:06me you walked right in yeah so every show yeah i had a there was a guy on stage on the corner of the
00:08:13stage like doing all the science or everything so i i implemented a segment of the show when i had a
00:08:19whole section about freud and some of freud's like wackier theories and i had a segment where i talked
00:08:26about how freud had an obsession with dicks moms moms with dicks fucking moms with dicks and i just
00:08:33like went on and on and then like i would like make the person sign everything unbelievable what does
00:08:38what does freud's obsession with fucking moms with dicks in sign language look like i don't know but
00:08:44it was it was just so funny to like watch the signer just get so uncomfortable wonderful yeah
00:08:49it was a great crowd moment but there was one there was one time in brisbane where in the q a afterward
00:08:54a woman got up and uh basically started chastising me for transphobia and um lecturing me about how
00:09:02i had like a moral responsibility and as of the moms with dicks thing yeah okay right because i have a
00:09:09platform and all this stuff and uh yep um and it was interesting because the crowd just instantly
00:09:15started booing her and um but it was funny because like i i i tried to use it as kind of a teaching
00:09:23moment and i said something very similar to you which is like look if you you it's not a quality if we
00:09:29can't laugh about it right like if if as long as something is so like it can't even be spoken of
00:09:39because it is needs to be protected it's so fragile and it needs to be protected to like such an extreme
00:09:44extent um like that's that's not a quality that's actually kind of the opposite of equality um in a lot
00:09:51of ways i don't know if if i convinced anybody of anything but uh it was it was a fun moment well
00:09:58suddenly the deaf people got convinced yeah jim jared you ever considered that you might have
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