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00:00:00has dating changed since you've stopped drinking yeah it sucks now
00:00:03yeah why is it the women got uglier for you yeah who's this what's her name uh yeah that is way
00:00:13harder because like drinking was is the easiest thing you want to get drinks hey you want to go
00:00:17like it's just the way and now like you don't go to a coffee shop and both get nervous in front of
00:00:21each other exactly that's what it feels like like i literally i've been hanging out with this this
00:00:25woman who i really like and she's like i literally texted her because it was just not going well
00:00:30in the text you know she's she's a girl i know from comedy and and i was like hey i think you're
00:00:36really attractive and you're nice to me like would you like to go out like i just had to eventually
00:00:41like just be doing the same yeah because i couldn't just be like we're getting drinks after comedy and
00:00:45then we would have like flirted there and then that would have went whatever way it would have went it's
00:00:49like love on the spectrum right away i'd like to see you it feels exactly like that yeah and then we
00:00:54watch anime and drink down and do for dinner you're saying sober dating is like love on the spectrum
00:00:58it is okay hard it's not going well what do you think would happen if the love on the spectrum was
00:01:03done with booze then would that just turn normal what do you mean like if you're saying you got them
00:01:08drunk yeah yeah i think they can drink can't they they can they can oh yeah yeah they can order
00:01:15drinks that would be yes you know we just if it's not spicy enough already we can just like throw
00:01:20a little bit of booze just turns into love island get his admiral dealer through yeah yeah spike in
00:01:24the drinks they go we didn't even know it was gonna yeah it would devolve i think yeah i think
00:01:29that's like that's like a very heartwarming pure show i don't like it i talk trash about it all the
00:01:33time why oh multiple reasons you know what's the number one complaint well they don't pay them first
00:01:38of all two everyone's watching it like we're watching children dating they go isn't it cute it's very
00:01:42condescending to look at grown-ups and be like oh they're dating like we do and like i hope i wish
00:01:47for the best it's very oh my my biggest problem with it is it's called love on the spectrum but they
00:01:52don't respect the spectrum they'll pick some guy who's super high functioning and pair him with some
00:01:57girl who's super not high functioning and be like maybe this is a match and then they're on the date and
00:02:02he's like i think you're great i think you're wonderful and i think you're awesome and i think you're
00:02:04pretty what about me and then she's like oh handsome you're like that's not a perfect that's perfect
00:02:10no it's not perfect but my point is like i don't like it i think everything everything they're doing
00:02:17is like too exploitive i don't i don't think it's good i was so ready to push back i thought it was
00:02:21going to be a really judgmental take from you and it's like it's really convincing yeah well it's
00:02:25actually kind of convincing it's so we're seducing them with celebrity now now they like think they're
00:02:30famous the one famous couple already broke up she's on like everything now it's just it's too much yeah
00:02:35that's fair although it's so sweet though like you're seeing them they're with their parents and like
00:02:39they're like this never would have happened i don't know i watched that he's doing the exact
00:02:43same thing you just said that's what i'm saying but it's so important do they live in the dream dude
00:02:49they're already fine leave them alone they don't need a wife they're frustrated they're so frustrated
00:02:55what uh oh here's another a part of it that that is is like they have a diagnosis right that that they
00:03:02don't like bright lights and loud noises the the the high pressure situations make them buzz and then
00:03:07we're like how about uh how about we put a 10 camera shoot on netflix how about we keep interrupting
00:03:13them every five minutes on a first date you're like leave them alone if you want them to date that's
00:03:17fine but maybe don't exploit them on a television show you're not paying them it's crazy yeah no
00:03:22money james has that james you know james right uh which one is the guy who goes sword guy renaissance
00:03:27fair i like that guy he's got liquid he's got i've seen every episode and i'm rooting for them as
00:03:31humans i'm saying that when you watch the show it feels a little icky but what about you got to push
00:03:34past that he's doing great he's got he's got he's got liquid death sponsorship
00:03:42that is the most human answer i've ever heard what a great moment he's got a liquid that push back
00:03:48past that listen he's got swords liquid death he's got a liquid death sponsorship i i tried
00:03:54watched try and started watching an episode and i kind of i didn't you articulated what i kind of felt
00:03:59when i was watching i was like this is just i didn't feel good about myself watching i watched like
00:04:03five minutes i'm like okay this is enough of this if you've ever saw a 40 year old date another third
00:04:07like 45 year old or whatever and you go isn't it cute it's like don't talk to them like that
00:04:12they're not retarded these are these are these are grown-ups with autism like treat them like adults
00:04:16i'll be honest you would never go to someone's table and go are you two having a good time this is
00:04:22i really support this you're like get the hell out of here like it's it's it's mean they're they're
00:04:26adults yeah i watch it and i laugh the entire time yeah and then i cry they get me every time i like
00:04:32their directness but that's just autism that has nothing to do with it it's so funny yeah i also
00:04:36think that's what's going on inside of every single person dating it just doesn't come out the same way
00:04:41yeah oh the same thing the people in love on us on the spectrum don't have the filter that everybody
00:04:46else exactly yeah and i like that point but i like that about autism i don't need them to be on a
00:04:50dating show to appreciate that about what would be great would be a love on the spectrum love island
00:04:55crossover episode that's what i'm saying yeah like 50 50 to just throw a couple of grenades
00:05:01would this be on epstein's island or what dude this sounds really crazy try to figure it out you know
00:05:08it's like trader or whatever and it's like trying to work out which but you don't know love on the
00:05:12spectrum yeah and you're trying to work out to be fair has got which once you got people who are that
00:05:20hot you throw some autism in there it's not you know mentally you're in like thin you're in thin air
00:05:27i gotta push past it liquid death sponsorships just waiting on the other
00:05:32hot chicks being like you're like really funny yeah you know a lot about weapons
00:05:42never knew that about medieval times
00:05:46well i just think also i mean it's just i think that we've got this
00:05:49idea of like rom-coms and then that's what a relationship is which i don't believe in
00:05:54and so like to push that on autistic people on the show because they're looking for some sort of like
00:05:59notebook like thing i just i just feels like very fraudulent yeah how do you view relationships you
00:06:05are you no romance or like how do you how do you think about romanticism basically
00:06:09uh i don't even know how to answer that i don't know like everyone else i'd like to find a partner i
00:06:14think it's good i think it's healthy yeah but you're both married with kids what advice have you got for
00:06:19women how old are you 43 should have probably figured it out by now well behind the power curve
00:06:26as they say one of those late bloomers do you uh where do you find you know where are you dating
00:06:33where you where you find your girls like apparently you found one from the comedy scene yeah i mean
00:06:38uh and you sent her weird autistic messages already you're saying
00:06:43i like i like the way he summarizes my life like where jeff gets arrested for going to kids things
00:06:50it's so direct there's no fat on it when he talks about my life
00:06:57what you met a girl in comedy when you sent her autistic text messages is that where you're getting
00:07:01them jeff military precision use your power exactly would you find some weakling that you could
00:07:09pick from the pack um so you know i usually just meet women on instagram from like after comedy shows and things
00:07:16things that is a thing apparently though what the girls after the shows yeah or that you meet them at
00:07:21the like after because now you know that they're interested in you because they saw kind of what
00:07:25you're about up there they listen to you talk for 70 minutes and they go you know they're interested
00:07:30um and then you can kind of figure it out from there and usually the comics go somewhere after the
00:07:34clubs and all that stuff it's not i wouldn't recommend it it hasn't worked out for me as far as
00:07:38anything i've had some some i also think you don't get things you don't believe in and i've been
00:07:43somewhat skeptical of relationships and romance in general so um so maybe how does the skepticism of
00:07:49romance and relationship show um what do you mean i don't know what that means like you think that
00:07:57they're a psyop like that jocko's not actually married or that matt's like no no no no i think
00:08:01it's fantastic i think that if you um love someone enough you got to kind of like compromise a lot of
00:08:09stuff that's what being a man is you kind of compromise things you say hey i can't go have
00:08:14fun and be drunk guy and i can't be going doing this and if i'm going to be on the road i need to
00:08:18kind of think about how long i'm going to be on the road whereas i'm making all the decisions for my
00:08:22career so i can have more money and more friend time and things like that i've made a lot of selfish
00:08:26decisions that wouldn't it's like why i don't have a dog i love dogs i can't think of anything i like
00:08:30more but if i was to have a dog right now i'd be a very selfish dog owner just letting him be at my
00:08:34house while i'm gone forever and so the same thing is just kind of true with relationships i would love
00:08:39to be with a partner who's awesome who i love and i really believe in it you want a creator it's just
00:08:44right now well it's just right now it's like i don't know how i'd be a good boyfriend and i'll figure
00:08:49it out and i'll make sacrifices but i haven't found anybody worth making that sacrifice for that's all
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Key Takeaway

Sober dating and public television relationships demand direct communication and significant lifestyle sacrifices.

Highlights

  • Sober dating requires direct digital messaging instead of casual bar encounters after comedy shows.

  • The television show Love on the Spectrum relies on exploitative dynamics by pairing individuals with mismatched autism functioning levels.

  • Dating in the public eye involves personal sacrifices that require genuine commitment to a partner over career flexibility.

  • Meeting potential partners occurs frequently through Instagram interactions following live comedy performances.

Timeline

Challenges of Sober Dating

  • Eliminating alcohol replaces casual bar encounters with direct, vulnerable text messaging.
  • Sober dating mimics the awkward pacing of television dating shows.

Transitioning away from alcohol removes the effortless buffer of getting drinks after comedy sets. Romance now requires direct text messages expressing clear attraction. This shift creates high-pressure interactions that resemble structured television dating formats.

Critique of Love on the Spectrum

  • Television production teams pair high-functioning individuals with partners of varying functioning levels for dramatic effect.
  • High-pressure environments and camera crews contradict the sensory needs of participants.

Reality television exploits autism diagnoses by subjecting participants to bright lights, loud noises, and frequent camera interruptions. Production choices manufacture dramatic pairings rather than respecting individual support needs. Despite these ethical concerns, viewers remain emotionally invested in the participants.

Romance and Lifestyle Sacrifices

  • Romantic partnerships require compromising personal freedom and career travel schedules.
  • Comedy shows serve as a primary venue for meeting romantic partners through Instagram connections.

Romantic fulfillment requires trading selfish career decisions and solo routines for shared compromises. Meeting partners happens through social media interactions after live comedy performances where audiences listen to extended sets. Committing to a partner demands restructuring priorities away from independent touring.

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