00:00:00I talked about this idea from Joe Hudson that operator guy to idea guy, which is you need
00:00:07to think about where productivity comes from a little bit more carefully.
00:00:13And I also realized that there is surprisingly an analogy between gastric band surgery and
00:00:19being busy.
00:00:20So the gastric band surgery of being busy is after ongoing gastric band surgery, people's
00:00:27risk of suicide tends to go up.
00:00:30And that's perhaps unsurprising because gastric band surgery is a big deal and can sometimes
00:00:35have complications, infections, painful outcomes, you're literally like putting a belt around
00:00:41your stomach to make it smaller so that you can't eat as much.
00:00:45So the old school version of Ozempic, you know, you're physically getting in there and having
00:00:51to limit the space.
00:00:53But one of the unseen reasons for this increased suicide risk is actually due to the surgery
00:00:59going right, not it going wrong.
00:01:02So you understand gastric band surgery, lots of complications, infections, painful outcomes,
00:01:07but it going right can have as bad of an impact on people as it going wrong.
00:01:12Many patients used food as a way to deal with issues in their lives, emotional challenges,
00:01:19loneliness, anxiety, and after having their stomach shrunk, the ability to use food as
00:01:24a comforting crutch has been taken away.
00:01:28But the emotional challenges that they were using food to deal with still remain.
00:01:34So the coping mechanism has been taken away and it forces patients now to face their issues
00:01:42without a release valve.
00:01:44And I think that there is an equivalent dynamic happening when you try to elevate your life
00:01:50to take your sense of self-worth from things other than your work and your level of busyness.
00:01:56So let's say that in the past you used busyness and chaos as a way to distract yourself from
00:02:03feeling unwanted emotions.
00:02:05It meant that you didn't need to reflect on your decisions or sit in discomfort, that you're
00:02:11moving so quickly that you never fully connect with the things that are happening in your
00:02:15life – lost relationships, disconnected friends, poor decisions, accumulated negative character
00:02:22traits – they're all swept away so quickly that you don't even have time to consider
00:02:29them by manic work rate.
00:02:32So eventually you realize that chaotic busyness is not your highest calling in life and maybe
00:02:37you value different things now or maybe you've outgrown that phase of your life or maybe
00:02:41realize that busyness for busyness' sake is detaching you from connecting to your existence.
00:02:47So the question here is what happens when this coping mechanism gets taken away?
00:02:54You are forced to face your issues without the highly distracting release valve that you're
00:03:00used to.
00:03:01The busyness anesthetic that you used to previously rely on has now been removed leaving you with
00:03:09two choices.
00:03:10One, ignore the lesson that chaos is not fulfillment and go back down the road you just escaped
00:03:17from by force feeding your way through this figurative gastric band.
00:03:22Number two, actually learn to handle emotional discomfort without distracting yourself with
00:03:28work and gastric bands I guess in the world of Mozempic are kind of like an old archaic
00:03:35technology but I do think that the analogy works that you have this realization that comes
00:03:42in with regards to your busyness, hey maybe this isn't where I should take most of my
00:03:46self-worth from, maybe I am hiding the deeper levels of connection between me and the world
00:03:51in my chaos and this heavily built-out calendar, what is it, a busy calendar is a hedge against
00:03:58existential loneliness.
00:04:00Okay, so that's kind of the what you call like the cognitive gastric band you've had this
00:04:06thing wrapped around you okay I've really limited my capacity to do that old workload and not
00:04:14feel sick by it.
00:04:17Why were you working that hard?
00:04:20Maybe because you just have raw ambition and I want to make the most of my life I'm going
00:04:23to make a dent in the world I'm going to do all of these things yeah and that will be some
00:04:27of it but that's not all of it man like it's a coping mechanism like what are you hiding
00:04:33from you're hiding from something and even if you're not hiding from something you will
00:04:37have hidden things by being that busy or maybe more accurately you will have been a been unable
00:04:45to notice things by being that busy so it's either notice hide or from being so busy have
00:04:53hidden and then when the busyness goes away start to notice so either way if the busyness
00:04:58begins to slow down stuff tends to bubble to the surface and look like I'm fucking speaking
00:05:04to myself here okay all of these are thinly veiled autobiographical notes to self but it's
00:05:11a challenge where do I take my sense of self-worth from now how am I going to deal with not being
00:05:17able to hide emotions in sweeping them under the rug of bravado and momentum is a good way
00:05:25to think about it and there's this idea from Ryan holiday that says be quiet work hard and
00:05:30stay healthy it's not ambition or skill that is going to set you apart but sanity and that's
00:05:38sounds fantastic apart from the fact that working hard often stops you from being able to remain
00:05:45sane especially if you push it if we accept and I think this is true that peace is a performance
00:05:51enhancer that if you are unpeaceful if you are in dysregulated states all of the time
00:05:57you don't get to access creativity which is the highest lever that you've got you're not
00:06:01enjoying the work so your motivation is going to decrease every single day even if each time
00:06:09that you do a thing it only saps naught point one percent of your motivation I'm about to
00:06:16hit episode 1000 I would be at zero percent motivation and there have been times when the
00:06:21way that I have done work has been net negative to my motivation so if you want to do a thing
00:06:27for a very long time like over seven and a half years which is I guess how long I've been
00:06:31doing the show I've done a pretty quick clip right like a thousand episodes in seven and
00:06:35a half years is pretty quick like even if I'd only lost naught point one percent of my motivation
00:06:41each episode I would I would be in the red right I would be overdrawn by now it is not
00:06:46ambition or skill that is going to set you apart but sanity and I think that that's because
00:06:49so many people make trades that they in the moment seem it seems smart but in retrospect
00:06:55you realize was actually the thing that was supposed to keep you going so given that we
00:07:01know that dialing back a little bit of the workload having a little bit of balance once
00:07:05you've reached escape velocity this is not for you in the first five years of doing whatever
00:07:08you're doing like end yourself that's the job the job is nose goes against grindstone sleep
00:07:14is out of the window the candle gets burned on three ends that's what you're supposed to
00:07:18do okay let's assume you've got to a little bit of escape velocity there's some momentum
00:07:24now you need to ask yourself some deeper questions because the monster that you created inside
00:07:29of yourself to deal with the challenges at the start of your journey is very difficult
00:07:33to handle becomes super unwieldy and undisciplined later in your journey and if you don't step
00:07:39in soon enough it's no longer like a dog on a leash pulling you forward it's more like
00:07:45a parasite that's grown inside of you and is staring out of your eyes like the difference
00:07:49between you and the drive is very hard to pull apart and I think that's why I've been talking
00:07:54about this so much recently that this last 12 months I've really tried sort of ask myself
00:08:00the question who am I if I'm not busy all the time or who am I if busyness isn't my primary
00:08:09contribution to the stuff that I do fucking hard question it's really hard question to
00:08:17answer but Mark Ranson as well just had this banger from the start of the year which was
00:08:23before you win everyone will ask you why you're working so hard and after you win everyone
00:08:27will remind you how lucky you got homo Z twisted that into before you win everyone will ask
00:08:33you why you're working so hard and after you win everyone will ask you why you're working
00:08:37so hard if that doesn't just go to show that most people are not worth listening to like
00:08:43myself included right but I do think that this is true like the like self-grandiosity of every
00:08:51person that's just come upon a an idea that they can't stop talking about I think this
00:08:55one's got some legs to it all right most people are not worth listening to me included but
00:08:59this one's got some legs so do your own assessment your results may vary but it's tough letting
00:09:05go of busyness leaning into what would a little bit of calm be like for a while and then turning
00:09:16that up and turning that up and turning that up because why did you work so hard if it was
00:09:19just to allow yourself to work harder in the future that's not to say that working hard
00:09:24isn't enjoyable but that by working hard you don't fully get to connect with life because
00:09:29it sweeps lots of things under the rug and it is a coping mechanism it is an obese person
00:09:35using food as a crutch you are obese with your workload you are a workload fatty and you are
00:09:41continuing to eat and that is how you deal with your problems so think about what it would
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